Do One!

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I rather like what the lady is telling “them” to do, which is… “Do One!

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I know some of you will be able to relate, understand and sympathise.

As for the narcissists? They know who they are and… We know who they are. ūüôā

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Taken Out Of Context?!

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If Simone Joseph had the decency to speak with respect or kindness in the very first place, she would not be in the public eye for her racial verbal diarrhoea which she has since admitted to and was charged with yet had the audacity to try to deflect the blame by saying it was “taken out of context”.

So not funny.

If you are going be a bully and let the poison dictate who you are Рyou alone are responsible for the consequences of your actions.

Sadly, this kind of abuse is all too common these days.

Islamophobia news.

Malorie Bantala, a pregnant woman kicked in stomach.

There’s no place like home.

What is a hate incident?

So many more…

If anything, mental health assessments should be ordered on such offenders.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Hasta La Vista!

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Only quite recently, I was made aware of some genuine concerns that some of my friends had, which were complaints that certain people and charities are associating themselves with those who bullied me and others in the past.

The miscreants back then forced our mutual friends to pick sides, theirs or mine. (I have since kept the evidence and there are witnesses!) However, I would never dream of imposing such a predicament upon someone else who had done absolutely nothing wrong.

What rights does anyone have to unleash his or her negativity unto innocent bystanders? This only proves their fears of losing face and letting paranoia take over. What made it permissible for them to put innocent people in such an awkward and unfair position? One considers it as another form of bullying and it is people like them, who need a good slap for their triviality.

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I advised my concerned friends to have their voices heard and to speak the truth but they are too afraid of being identified and singled out in retaliation.

Rather unfortunately, this is what the deaf world is like and because of all the disregard others have unto ourselves by toying with us as if we were pawns in agendas of theirs, I no longer want any part of it. Especially for as long as they are around continuing to manipulate people with their lies, distorting / obscuring the truth and using / manipulating people for their own gains.

I no longer use social media for obvious reasons so I can only advise and wish those unsuspecting associates well, in the hope they will soon realise and learn from the errors of their ways. That they will not lose any interest or subscribers since people are getting rather sick of seeing the bullies being thrust in their faces continuously. This only goes to show how disgusted they are, with the treatment and childish behaviour towards themselves, and me in the past.

The deaf world is fast becoming much too small for some people’s liking so it is inevitable that it is a case of, “Hasta la vista” for some of us but‚Ķ

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In a very camp manner, I would like to embrace the hearing world with open arms and excitedly exclaim ‚ÄúHiya!‚ÄĚ and re-settle once again¬†into a much more hospitable, amicable and respectable place.

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~ SJ (Sara Jae)

A Sociopath is….

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I have had more than my fair share of being subjected to bullies and sociopaths¬†in the past and here is a list I have compiled from my experiences, which could assist you in defining and determining who / what a sociopath is…

They come across as being rather charismatic but in the end, is actually quite glib.

Even though they appear so certain of themselves, they are in fact paranoid.

They have strange sexual tendency or fetish(es).

They will warm to, suck up to anyone that is currently in the limelight, thus try to be in or steal the limelight.

They tell lies only to deceive but for some, they may lie compulsively.

They are able to manipulate their lies into sounding something very much like the truth due to their confidence and assertiveness to convince and dominate others.

They are unable to feel any guilt or remorse and have complete disregard for your emotional well-being or opinions and the consequences of their actions.

They will engineer situations and manipulate people into doing what they desire through charm or aggressive means.

They, more than likely, will have hidden agendas.

They end up treating people with such disrespect and contempt especially as and when things do not go their way. Basically, they spit their dummies.

They tend to be short-tempered and at times, violent ‚Äď if not most of the time.

They may mentally and / or physically abuse those closest to them.

They are rarely shy but will certainly experience a degree of trouble in suppressing their anger, impatience or annoyance.

They are incapable of holding a job or remaining in one place for long periods.

They usually work or has worked in sales.

They come across as self-centred, and will constantly post selfies for attention and compliments.

They somehow feel entitled so will be manipulative to gain such a position or authority, especially for their own gains.

They are often deluded, with notions of grandeur.

They quickly get bored so will venture elsewhere for some mental simulation.  Physically, they will be spontaneous, taking risks without assessing any potential repercussions.

They will fail to keep to any social arrangements once they are comfortable with their foot in the door with a current social group and eventually, will look elsewhere for more unsuspecting victims to manipulate, bully and challenge.

They often seek approval from others and have a hard time taking criticism whether it is constructive or not.

They are two-faced and at best, hypocritical but will vehemently deny it.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Pssst… Respect is earned, not given x

My Jolly Sailor Bold

For quite some time now, I have wanted to capture this scene since discussing it with an old school friend of mine a few years ago based on our deeper interpretation of it, depicting certain actions.

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Turning on the charm…

For example, the lengths anyone will go to, to engineer and exploit someone only for them to turn monstrous nearing the end or after their conquest(s) is sadly, all too common these days.

However, that is another whole blog post, but never fret; there is a message from yours truly, right at the very end of the scene! ūüėČ

If one is willing to trash you in any sense without any regards to your feelings or consequences , go fish elsewhere. Hence, the message. ūüôā

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Quality Rather Than Quantity…

Upon tidying up my hard drive, I stumbled across a folder and foolishly thought I could clear it out. Yet having gone through it all, being the evidence of what bullying I had previously endured and subsequently saved, it left me reeling once again with such utter disgust at the world Рespecially those who wish(ed) to behave and present themselves quite despicably. As I was not their only victim, I can wholly sympathise with the others too, this weighs my heart down even more so. It has been what seems to be a never-ending, extremely painful experience to undergo all that nastiness at the hands of such evilness.

‚ÄúThe good writers touch life often. The mediocre ones run a quick hand over her. The bad ones rape her and leave her for the flies.‚ÄĚ
~ Ray Bradbury.

You can only imagine how elated I felt the other day, to learn¬†that someone, Sean O’Brien, he who had been targeted via social media for his size and confidence was in fact being supported against his bully. His predator‚Äôs attempt to feed his own ego was thwarted. Big time. People‚Äôs attitudes and perceptions of today are changing, for the better and this means sociopaths are gradually being exposed. People are standing up, taller than ever before, having their voices heard, against the bullies ‚Äď they are no longer following the flock of sheep but their own conscience for peace of mind and heart.

Please, do not be afraid to walk alone, to be yourself ‚Äď ‚Äėtis way better than letting them walk all over you – they are potentially¬†manipulating, exploiting, engineering and compromising you for their own gains with little or no regards for your feelings or¬†any consequences. Do not be afraid, to speak up ‚Äď to anyone. Think of it all as a good test because in the end it will help you to find out along the way, whom you can trust and who you are or want to be since they are showing you, who not to be.

I have taken measures to prevent any further undesirables from entering my life for my children, and my family comes first. They are why I do not dare let the sadness, heartbreak, past memories and any thoughts of “them” creep in. Feelings are deceiving and extremely compromising.rocks-stone-zen-balance-calmA true friend would never abandon your side in your time of need, through thick or thin or even encourage the¬†thought of compromising you – in any sense. Anyone that does can effectively ‚ÄúDo one‚Ä̂Ķ

‚ÄúDon‚Äôt walk behind me; I may not lead. Don‚Äôt walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk besides me and be my friend.‚ÄĚ
~ Albert Camus.

I am more than certain you will believe me when I say I know who my friends are, they may be rather few at that but I do not mind because with me, it is a case of ‚ÄúQuality Rather Than Quantity‚ÄĚ.¬†On that note, here is a token of gratitude for those selected few who manage to stay true, for not looking down on any one¬†except to help them¬†back up. For they are the ones who know how it feels, to be felled.

It is oftentimes like this when I have to remind myself not to let “them” win and to soar¬†even higher up above with an abundance of courage and positivity.

You so can do it too – Keep the faith x

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Evidence Speaks For Itself

As I began setting up the Tree House and laying its foundations, I invited two other old school friends to join me and they both happily agreed. Robin McMeekin, bless his soul, voluntarily left after he realised his actions could have been quite damaging onto himself and the TH. He is very much a free spirit, doing as he pleases whilst being very outspoken with his views – some of which, other people thought were a bit extreme even though he was entitled to his own opinions. So the three of us became the two of us. Robin and his sense of humour are missed, by more than he realises.

The TH then continued to bloom and grow with all the nurturing each and every one put into it.

One day, when most¬†of the admin team did not get their way and walked out like spoilt brats – one of whom went as far as to mimick her house mate’s tendancy to put themselves¬†into hospital. Kirsty Vessey (nee McMullan) then stepped in and tried to make me think we could not do without them. This was the first warning sign I had that things were not going to be plain sailing any more.

Of course, we could do without them, especially if they were going to be so self-centred / absorbed / power mad – so let them go and make way for other team members instead who might do even better (who knows?) To their demands they had made via Kirsty, I made my own of which soon transpired were not relayed but swept under the rug to appease them, just so they would come back. This was the first mistake she made.

Therefore, it was inevitable that there would be a next time that they wanted their own way once again, except I would not let anyone manipulate me this time around. They could not understand my position as the legal founder and owner, that I had the last say in how I wanted to protect the TH and see it performing. I wrote a blog called “Stop¬†Online Abuse” to speak out as it had been going on for far too long in the deaf world across social media, far too many others also behave in this manipulative way in order to achieve what they want. By trying to provide a platform to try to bridge the gaps between and unite¬†both the deaf and hearing worlds, the last thing I would tolerate was people from within my own community turning on their own.

They took over another group belonging to the Tree House and renamed it. Only then to set up their own when people realised what they had done. I was not going to take this second or third¬†attempted takeover bid laying down – I reported them with hard evidence to make them stop harassing, bullying and manipulating me, also via my friends. They predictably went around mutual friends in a bid to get them to leave the TH, to abandon and to turn them against me. I had several witnesses who could vouch¬†what was happening and¬†these witnesses made me feel slightly vindicated. They were telling everyone (confirmed by Michelle Hedley) that I was doing all this and that when I had not – I had learnt a very, very, long time ago not to allow anyone to use anything against me… Yet still, I was wronged and being wronged. For what? Doing the right things as the legal owner. Even when I publicly thanked everyone for their time, patience and contributions which made the TH what it is, I was still being given grief.

One of them, Richard Turner, had the nerve to turn it all against me by using the famous animal farm quote when he was potentially the engineer behind it all as the team was more or less made up of who he wanted on the team and what events he wanted or did not want to do which was also under his influence. And because of that, I decided it was no longer necessary to have a dedicated events team as the members themselves could be encouraged and empowered to create and do events as they wished.

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My mother saw this very quote he posted¬†that was directed at me so¬†she relatively slammed him right back down, accusing him of bullying me and clarified that the animal farm quote, was actually who “they” were being.

I am going to attach some of the evidence which will speak for itself, how they behaved so you can see for yourself just how despicable they were being as I am tired and have had quite enough, of being browbeaten. Tired of seeing my friends suffering too at the hands of their unreasoning and logic(!).

My friends were being unfriended / blocked for not taking his/their sides and for quite simply, being friends with me. Their rightful choice?

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Not having permission? Total bollocks to that as any writer knows they are automatically giving permission when they hit publish – not only that, I have his actual written permission. So obviously bent on publicly harassing me to make me look bad..
One of the few witnesses.

Even stooped as low¬†to¬†go down the route, using a form of monstering to make me look like the “baddie”.

A form of monstering.

The last straw was when the Ward-McLaughlans involved my daughter.

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Everyone that knows me knows I will¬†say it¬†like it is – which¬†is nothing but¬†the truth….. Shame on¬†those¬†who run around destroying people, (and those who condoned their actions) it makes¬†them¬†out to be¬†a psycho or perhaps more appropriately sociopaths.