SELFLESS.

I shared this post regarding a deaf blind man the other day, highlighting how *SELFLESS* this young lady was. I was then made aware of a twitter thread posted by Rebecca Cokely, who is apparently an US disability activist.

And so on…. (do read the full twitter thread)

It is somehow expected that airlines (and hospitals) employ appropriately trained staff to assist, especially, those who happen to have communication issues. Otherwise, they, the customers, should not be travelling.

Errrrrmm….

My sister, who has worked for an airline and is highly experienced in customer services, has this to say, in response.

Valid points but if he was happy / confident to travel alone that’s his choice? In an ideal world every flight would have flightcrew representing every spoken language and all means of communication; plus a doctor for any medical emergencies. That’s not going to happen (but technology is becoming advanced enough to help), so second to this ideal it would be nice to think that an airline would be able to include a deafblind communicator crew member on his booked flight, but this would presumably restrict his choice of when he travels (much like only being able to see captioned performances at a particular show twice a year). If this isn’t a reality, it leaves us with the situation we have today, employees and fellow travellers who do the best that they can.

If the concern is primarily consent – there is a lovely video of an interview he (Tim Cook, the man in the viral video) has done –

I also came across this which is the other extreme. Sad to see this had happened –

https://www.edinburghnews.scotsman.com/news/deaf-blind-man-is-hauled-off-easyjet-flight-over-safety-fears-1-4413794/amp

Why is it so hard for people to just let it be? It is, to quote my friend, “miserable shits” in society who make it so difficult, for certain people to get by these days.

A drop of kindness goes a very long way… There is no harm at all, in going above and beyond.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

 

Dearest Sara,

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Dearest Sara,

Having not put pen to paper for quite some time, I thought I would dedicate this perfect moment to your good self.

The way you fare in life after knocking on death’s door, will be the greatest test to overcome. Simply because, better times await you.

At first, you will not understand why you survived and feel guilty for having done so. As a result, you will appreciate and cherish life, integrity, nature’s designs but most of all, each and every waking moment even more so. At times this may hurt, all because you cannot explain or stress just how precarious life or short, time, is.

Such an experience will benefit you with more wisdom, to see through people, to expand on thinking outside the box and enable you to predict consequences. To recognise better, the evil that’s out there and the many forms it takes.

People will try their best to exploit your kindness for their own gains but you will stand tall courageously and prevail. With their disdain, they will try with all their might to turn others against you. This too, will be in vain.

Whilst life does not come with any instructions, all one can do is listen to our hearts and subsequently understand, what our elders before us, wished. Since history, tends to rhyme.

There will be times when you will feel anxious, such as your precious angels embarking on a life all of their own, anticipating the familiar faces of evil they too, will inevitably encounter. Or quite simply, due to the fact that you survived not once, not twice but three times, that something is bound to happen to you because you, technically, should not be here. Yet, you are meant to be and you will come to understand why.

There will be times when you feel such anger at ghosts of past, who chose to inflict pain and heartache upon you. Alternatively, pure frustration at people’s triviality alone. You will learn, to let it go.

There will be times when you bring sincere meaning to others with just a smile from the bottom of your heart, the kindest word or two and/or gesture – you may not always know it but this will truly make their day. You will come to realise just how vital this can be to someone else, for it’ll save you also.

Grit your teeth, sit on your hands (not too often!), remain the extremely patient, honest and considerate person you are. One who is not afraid to kick ass, either.

Take it one step, one moment, one day at a time.

Not everything is or will be as it seems. You cannot stop the (sound) waves but you can learn to surf so keep on going with the flow, for it suits you so.

Be kind to yourself yet always bear it in mind, that it is okay to say no, that it is okay to be a little bit selfish. To have some “me time”.

Trust in fate since everything and everyone that happens, is predestined. In time, the answers to your many why’s will figure, in all senses.

Don’t be discouraged, don’t be unhappy and don’t be afraid to stay true to yourself, keep the faith in who you are, why you are who you are – you will be more than fine. For you are EXCEPTIONAL, more than you will ever come to realise. You may not always feel it but people do LOVE you, your feistiness even. Those around you consider themselves honoured, lucky today to still, be graced with the pleasure of YOUR company.

With the warmest of love and best wishes, on your birthday.

Your future self,

Sara xx

Ps Never underestimate the power of a written letter. 😉

Lesson Learnt.

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There are those who only show us, what they want us to see.
Be thankful that you can learn, who not to be.
Kindness may not be, what they deserve.
Yet it is a trait, that we should not curb.

🙌🏼

Poet, and didn’t know it 😜

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

The Most Beautiful Curve.

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“The most beautiful curve in a woman’s body is her smile.”

~ Bob Marley.

What a sincerely beautiful quote to be given, after thanking someone, simply for making me smile.

That was enough, to make my day.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Air Karate Chops.

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Not long ago, I was cherishing a cuddle with baby when I suddenly felt something tickling my neck. It continued so I tried to feel what it was. Looked at my hand and there was this spider hogging my fingers. Shock horror!! 😱 Shook my hand in terror 👋🏼 and jumped up off the sofa, 🏃🏽‍♀️clinging onto baby for security and reassurance – she was oblivious and carefree, 💪🏼 the most courageous baby ever. Whereas, 😳 shame on me! 😩😩😩

Last night I was sleeping 😴… blissfully. I think! My hand felt a tickle… I woke up in alarm and did a karate chop in the air 👋🏼 to flick off any 8 legged crawlies that did NOT have my permission to be on or near my body….😤 Was it the very same spider haunting me or my hair? God only knows – I don’t want to know! 🤚🏼

Today… 😬😬😬😬… I had to grit my teeth every time I felt a tickle on my neck. No, nothing to attack the air with for my hair is now short enough to fool me, to tease me. 😓😓😓

Just one of the challenges of having ultra sensitive skin, heightened due to being hearing impaired.

Tip – check between your bedcovers before you go to bed and always, I mean always! turn your shoes upside down and shake before putting them on! 😜😜😜

I only started checking my footwear because I had seen on TV, a scorpion that sought warmth inside someone’s slippers. I have caught several spiders that way so it definitely works! A hearing friend once told me that they can hear whenever there is a spider inside their footwear for it goes pop… Urgh.

Last but not least, a friend of mine whose boyfriend was going to throw a spider he caught, over their balcony and she told him not to because he would kill it. To flush it down the toilet instead. There I sat, puzzled! Go figure.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)