Cherished.

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For a while now, I have been missing my childhood and school friends, weren’t those the days? ☺️
Except I now feel the need to make you smile instead, by simply letting you know that I too miss you and love you – as friends. 😜
If it’s a one way street, that’s ok too, just know that I care, regardless.
Thank YOU, for always accepting me for who I am.
For sharing / making some of those cherished memories with me.
Thank YOU, to old friends and new,, for remaining besides me, for continuing to be there still.
Thank YOU also, for being one of the reasons why I smile.

💖

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Yes, You.

This is in response to a select few friends who picked up on the BBC article “Using Facebook made my anxiety worse” with Paul Allen, written by Zara Morgan.

Source.

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I saw very early on how certain people would only show us, what they wanted us to see. How people used and still use, social media as a tool, to manipulate and engineer illusions. Negativity I could sometimes let pass but not when it gave cause for concern and having been able to be there for others gave me reason to remain. I know how and what some of you are experiencing… for I do see YOU. 💖

YOU have been the only reason why, I am still on social media. Sure, I have my own frustrations and my own ghosts to deal with but they’re mine and not anyone else’s to bear. I find myself having to sit on my hands sometimes, bite my lips whenever I witness one of the many forms of injustice… Sometimes I just cannot resist! 😝 I dislike being a bystander to it, for fear of inviting it. Some people find me intimidating but that’s their problem. Some people choose to ignore me, that’s once again their problem. Some people choose to be angry… let them waste their time being so. They and my ghosts should not, and do not, dictate me or my precious time. Don’t let them dictate yours.

I choose to focus on my kids because who knows where we will be, this time tomorrow. It is only those who have knocked on deaths door who understands where I truly come from, only those who have personally experienced the quagmires of depression who can relate. Why I am, who I am.

Everyone is different and are at different stages in their lives. How you choose to proceed or react, is up to YOU entirely. Let nothing influence or manipulate YOU.

If it’s meant to be, it’ll be. God willing.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

A Simple Hello.

There is a lady, who is not known to me, nor me to her, who has over the years kept an eye over me (not literally!) albeit from a distance. For we are not on either one’s friend list.

From time to time she would send me a message, to ask how I am and tells me a bit of her news. I often anticipate her next message so I too know and can be reassured, that she too, is ok.

If you are thinking of someone, simply let them know. Even if it’s just a simple ‘Hello’, which in other words, ‘I’m thinking of you.’
It is just so they know, they are not alone or forgotten.

Thank you lady, for thinking of and remembering me. More than you realise. ☺️

One of my favourite quotes.

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~ SJ (Sara Jae)

I’d Walk Alone.

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Today has been another one of those strange days, full of reflection and acceptance whilst walking amongst strangers.

Remembering the importance of self value, care and love.
The happiness from within (and not for a reason, simply because that reason can be taken away.)
How our past experiences continuously teaches us to introspect, learn from, in order to improve and grow.

Concluding once more, anyone that’s proud and honoured to be my friend, willing to walk besides me, will find a friend in me.

Otherwise, I’m quite content to walk alone.

💜

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

When Friends Are Hard To Find…

Oftentimes I find myself praising the NHS yet on this anticipated date, the praise is annually magnified, for 8 years ago my life was saved by a couple of wonderful, experienced and ever so patient NHS surgeons.

It is only thanks to them and the lengthy aftercare that I received subsequently, that I today, fortunately have the privilege to still know you, old friends and new.

When friends (for you) are hard to find, like a bridge over troubled water, I will lay me down.

Wherever there is respect, you’ll find me right beside you.

Your continued friendship is more than enough birthday present. Thank YOU ever so.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Be Careful What You Tolerate.

People will always come and go, continuously showing us who not to be. Continuously reminding us, of the level of respect that each one of us so deserves. Regardless of who we may be.

People who know me well, will understand why I reward disloyalty with distance.

I don’t take kindly to people who have one rule for themselves and another for others, nor those who expect to be pandered to.

If one wishes to practise their right to freedom of speech, let me practise mine too even if it differs. Don’t silence me, especially when valid points need to be made and those, I will continue to make.

People have a right to be able to defend themselves, hence a reason for this post.

I am not afraid to kick ass, although, you will not find me kissing any. 😷

To those who have unfriended me, their loss of my friendship, will be and is, someone else’s gain. All water under the bridge.

Social media is continually being used as a tool, to manipulate, to slander, to gossip, to back-stab, to trigger and so on.

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I do not and will not, tolerate it. This is one of the reasons why, I do not let people back into my life. History tends to rhyme.

I know who my true friends are and it is those selected few, who have not left my side.

Next chapter please? ☺️

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

SELFLESS.

I shared this post regarding a deaf blind man the other day, highlighting how *SELFLESS* this young lady was. I was then made aware of a twitter thread posted by Rebecca Cokely, who is apparently an US disability activist.

And so on…. (do read the full twitter thread)

It is somehow expected that airlines (and hospitals) employ appropriately trained staff to assist, especially, those who happen to have communication issues. Otherwise, they, the customers, should not be travelling.

Errrrrmm….

My sister, who has worked for an airline and is highly experienced in customer services, has this to say, in response.

Valid points but if he was happy / confident to travel alone that’s his choice? In an ideal world every flight would have flightcrew representing every spoken language and all means of communication; plus a doctor for any medical emergencies. That’s not going to happen (but technology is becoming advanced enough to help), so second to this ideal it would be nice to think that an airline would be able to include a deafblind communicator crew member on his booked flight, but this would presumably restrict his choice of when he travels (much like only being able to see captioned performances at a particular show twice a year). If this isn’t a reality, it leaves us with the situation we have today, employees and fellow travellers who do the best that they can.

If the concern is primarily consent – there is a lovely video of an interview he (Tim Cook, the man in the viral video) has done –

I also came across this which is the other extreme. Sad to see this had happened –

https://www.edinburghnews.scotsman.com/news/deaf-blind-man-is-hauled-off-easyjet-flight-over-safety-fears-1-4413794/amp

Why is it so hard for people to just let it be? It is, to quote my friend, “miserable shits” in society who make it so difficult, for certain people to get by these days.

A drop of kindness goes a very long way… There is no harm at all, in going above and beyond.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)