One Human Race.

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One world, one human race.

I noticed a post a very good friend of mine shared, others by other friends too, of the same nature, I simply let the others go but because I had a lot of respect for this particular friend, I was worried they were being brainwashed, relatively manipulated and without realising it, potentially paying that trait forwards.

The post shared stated;

“In 2017 when the Manchester Arena was bombed, lots of people changed their profile picture to the worker bee and said “Manchester Strong”. Nobody said “All cities strong”.

When the shootings at the Bataclan in Paris happened in 2015, people said “I stand with Paris”. Nobody said “Well what about the people who were shot in my city”.

Have you ever seen anyone counter a breast cancer post with “What about Colon cancer?”.

But for some reason, if someone says “Black lives matter”, it turns into all inclusive “All lives matter”. Its not an either/or proclamation.

When there is a crisis, we have always rallied around that particular group. It doesn’t discredit or diminish any other group, it just brings awareness and support to the group that needs attention.”

So I relatively composed a response, to that “statement”, as below.

Regarding some of these points, the people that may have made some of these choices, their choices were respected, others sympathised with and then people moved on but the wording of a certain movement sparked a debate and everyone else was expected to follow suit, expected to ask no questions and simply expected to follow the crowd. Even after justice had been served – people were and are still not happy.

People were encouraged by speakers to take advantage of the whole situation… encouraged to protest even more and told to keep the anger alive. Violence & destructive behaviour of any kind is unacceptable, regardless of who you/they may be. Regardless of who you/they may support

If anyone dared to think otherwise or independently, their choices were and are not respected and reverse psychology was  / is being applied.

The BLM movement is fine, uniting against ALL racism would benefit everyone but how people choose to behave to go about it, oppressing people’s choices, especially if they wanted to think for themselves, or to be at a safe distance (for their own mental health sake for example) or to make it only about themselves, to be violent or cause destruction, hatred, anger and dismay isn’t going to get anyone, anywhere. Negativity breeds…

People know already that my family has experienced racism in different ways, of course I would naturally want to see eradicating it to be inclusive of all. I’m mindful that way and that is not a crime… and if anyone doesn’t like that, please unfriend me. That’s my right just as it is yours to choose your right. I respect your right but what I do not appreciate is being or seeing others manipulated.

The whole BLM thing has been subverted now, morphed into something else.

So many people of different races, colour or creed have been unlawfully killed, we’ve not heard the last of it either.

Several of my friends, who happen to be black, they themselves are saying “Enough is enough now, be united!” People’s choices should be respected regardless of who/what they may be, no oppressing, no forcibly suppressing, no manipulating, no engineering, no reverse psychology… Just, respect one another.

BLM movement? That’s fine, I agree with the whole movement but the wording? No. That is what the problem here is, that is what’s causing tit for tat, that is at the root of the whole division.

Racism on the whole needs attention, but from an united front’s perspective as that is the only way it will be eradicated.

If anyone doesn’t like fairness, cannot accept the idea of unity or does not want to respect people’s individual choices, please unfriend me. I have unfriended others for the one sided hatred they have shared, the dividing they are causing regardless of who they may be. That kind of negativity is toxic. God knows the world doesn’t need any more toxicity or anger.

Stick with the good vibes (my friend) for it makes your soul glow, even more so. ☺️

 

One of my favourite quotes is;

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

― Mahatma Gandhi.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Enough Is Enough.

To those who are trying to impose an influence over Jeremy Corbyn and the Labour Party – which seems to be always before an election… Hmmm.

To especially those who keep on insisting using the anti-semitism card each and every time you fail to get your way…

It will not work in your favour but against you.

Enough is enough.

Stop
Just stop…. spitting your dummies.

There is far more vile stuff being said and done to the Muslims on a daily basis.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Strike Action Diminishes Trust & Reliability

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Trust and reliability…

Trust and reliability which has taken years to forge is lost the very instance whenever workers walk out the door or go on strike.

From experience, they will only try their hand at the implementing the same manipulation tactics time and time again, pushing their luck that little bit harder with each attempt. Of which, the repetition becomes stale with greed. Inevitably, workers become more complacent due to demands being met.

If workers cannot do their job effectively consistently by going on strike and their actions for which they are responsible for is causing a ripple effect on the public, they need to be nipped in the bud, not appeased or permitted to bully their bosses.

Granted there are pen-pushers who have no comprehension of what workers on the ground may face, any walkouts where talks have failed, would provide them with the opportunity to stand in for the workers and gain the valuable experience and insight needed before understanding the workers’ stance fully. To able to reach a fair and just, compromise sympathetically.

There are experienced employers out there who have worked extremely hard in establishing, developing and taking further their companies, showing utmost patience to date and that alone deserves a pat on the back.

Where that is the case, what an employer should do is let the strikers go… People who voluntarily choose to go on strike, potentially ignoring, compromising and endangering users of the services should be dismissed from their jobs, to make way for those who genuinely need and want a job, respectful of those above them paying their wages. Service users reserve the right to take their custom elsewhere, otherwise.

In order for workers to understand humility and gratitude, they need to be reminded of just how lucky they are to be walking in such comfortable shoes. There are workers overseas who work in potentially highly dangerous conditions with no health and safety polices in place. They receive very little next to nothing yet they continue to strive in helping to make the world a better place, for others, sometimes risking their lives. They are the survivors, of the fittest.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Keep Calm And Yield

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I encountered today yet another degree of selfishness. I cannot fathom how people seem to believe they have right of way on what is surely, a shared public pavement…

My daughter and I were waiting to meet someone and I decided to put a piece of scrap paper from my coat pocket into a bin, which we made our way towards. Job done, checked that my daughter was okay yet this old lady decided to have a right go at me some fifteen seconds later.

“Did you not hear me walking behind you – you just walked right across my path”.

Cue one jaw dropping moment.

“I’m sorry, I was just putting some rubbish into the bin”  I answered, feeling rather astonished…I really did not see any one else in the immediate vicinity except at the bus stop otherwise I would have yielded. Giving is better than taking, is it not?

She completely snubbed me and proceeded to the bus stop where she continued to moan about me right in front of my very eyes to innocent bystanders. I could not swallow how impudent she dared to be. I decided not to permit her to be so spiteful so calmly walked over to her; reminding her that I was putting something into the bin. Should I have thrown rubbish onto the ground instead? She looked surprised to see me standing my ground to an elder like herself, who are usually extremely set in their ways, who in addition had the audacity to brush me aside, waving me away.

An innocent bystander realised I was deaf and informed her of my predicament, hence why I did not hear her. Besides, she was only petite, not some stomping great giant. Bless this bystander and her cottons.

Upon seeing how she waved me away as if I were some pauper, I decided to give her one last injection of my feistiness, “You may think I am the one being rude when it is actually you, who is being so rude.” Relatively shortly after, I decided to remove my daughter away from such a display of insolence. From a short distance, we could still see her grumbling away, glancing back at us, trying to involve surrounding onlookers, which was saddening to see. My patience was being tested once more.

She expected attention under notions of grandeur and quite possibly she would have gone on to whine about me to everyone else she spoke to except they would not know the whole truth or my side of the story and this is what infuriates me so much.

Just because one may live in an area of affluence or have money, it does not give anyone the authority to be so arrogant and aloof. I sincerely hope she will think twice in future before passing any more crass remarks – not everyone will be as understanding. Caring for elderly people in the past has helped me to determine that for some of them, they know how well to manipulate situations into their favour due to their life experiences.

If I can give someone who happened to be a police detective, a piece of my mind with the greatest of respect for valid reasons, no one else gets treated any differently just because of who they may be, where they may come from or who they may know since it is all irrelevant. No one is all that.

A fact – arrogance renders people ignorant.

“An arrogant person considers himself perfect. This is the chief harm of arrogance. It interferes with the person’s main task in life – becoming a better person.” – Leo Tolstoy.

Keep calm and yield – within reason. For the giving (upper) hand is better than the taking (lower) hand.

Be a lover, not a fighter. 😉

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

The Media’s Influence

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Are established media outlets to blame for the ever-increasing exposure of radicalisation and extremism, by falling victim to playing a part in adding to the propaganda? Of which is misrepresenting Islam and its peaceful followers, the Muslims.

For those who may not know, extremism is not permitted, in Islam.

I say yes to my earlier question (as above) because the exposure adds to the rising levels of “Islamophobia” except I would like to go on to say that social media is also being used as a tool by today’s society.

There is an online world being formed, which makes people feel able to take things into their own hands, making comments, posting YouTube videos or articles that spread like wildfire within seconds of it being publicized.

It is all potentially dangerous because each one of us will interpret the context based on our personal knowledge, understanding and experiences. Not everyone will seek the truth or a deeper knowledge in order to be better informed about what we are being told or given to read, by or via the media.

Here are some excerpts from several of my past articles relating to and/or responding to any extremism in the media:

My Waging a dirty war” article will help to explain one of the real reasons why the media of the West, is somewhat biased.

It is not a laughing matter. –

“I condemn all acts of terrorism especially where innocent people have to die.

Muslims seem to lose either way. They are constantly asked to apologise for crimes they did not commit nor supported. They are stuck between the extremists and fanatics on either sides. Most Muslims want to work providing for their family and get on with life in harmony.”…

…”My point being, freedom of speech is important but we need to hold back at our own discretion if we feel what we might say or do is hurtful towards others. There will always be people who want to push the boundaries and there is nothing wrong with that but freedom of speech cannot be used as an excuse to hide behind from when their actions has consequences and they should expect the same level of freedom of speech back especially when in a democratic state.

My main worry at this point in time is how society is reacting based on what the media wants us to see and believe”…

…”Any perceived anti-Semitism would be handled straightaway and the offenders promptly dealt with. Yet for any other religions, any anti views are sadly casually tolerated which I find very unfair because the same law should apply to all religions. By being respectful and mindful of others at all times would nip any anti views in the bud and would avoid that cataclysmic chain reaction of events spiralling out of anyone’s control. As for censorship? Do not even try to hide behind that excuse because no one ever sees what actually happens to the people of Palestine and other war-torn countries: Waging a dirty war.

Is the Ku Klux Klan a representative of Christians? So why do many think Terrorists are representative of Muslims? Fanatics or extremists does not define their religion come what may except distorts the truth behind it – all religions which asks for submission to the one and only same god is about peace and humanity. A true believer would not stoop so low to harm another because their religion (should) forbids it. Unfortunately people not in the know or are well-informed regarding a particular religion will accept that distortion all too readily. It is those who are the most sincere in their hearts that suffer the most from all this due to fanatics and others attributing excuses.

Thank you for allowing me to practise free speech – with respect comes peace.”

The ISIS video.: –

“The last straw for me came when I saw articles written by those who are not experienced or knowledgeable in either, the history of the Middle East, the language and the religion – the latter; ISIS has nothing to do with, at all.

Why are people listening to, consulting with or publishing someone”… “….who are not qualified on any aspect of the subject matter?

Not everything published online be it YouTube, Facebook or even established news outlets is correct and should always be looked at with a critical eye. Politicians who have an agenda in mind would highlight a particular issue and blow it out of proportion, then feed the public in order to gain votes. In some cases, deflecting attention from their shortcomings.”

Established media outlets should be responsible for what they broadcast and permit for they do not realise, the vast influence their content patently has on today’s society.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Hasta La Vista!

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Only quite recently, I was made aware of some genuine concerns that some of my friends had, which were complaints that certain people and charities are associating themselves with those who bullied me and others in the past.

The miscreants back then forced our mutual friends to pick sides, theirs or mine. (I have since kept the evidence and there are witnesses!) However, I would never dream of imposing such a predicament upon someone else who had done absolutely nothing wrong.

What rights does anyone have to unleash his or her negativity unto innocent bystanders? This only proves their fears of losing face and letting paranoia take over. What made it permissible for them to put innocent people in such an awkward and unfair position? One considers it as another form of bullying and it is people like them, who need a good slap for their triviality.

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I advised my concerned friends to have their voices heard and to speak the truth but they are too afraid of being identified and singled out in retaliation.

Rather unfortunately, this is what the deaf world is like and because of all the disregard others have unto ourselves by toying with us as if we were pawns in agendas of theirs, I no longer want any part of it. Especially for as long as they are around continuing to manipulate people with their lies, distorting / obscuring the truth and using / manipulating people for their own gains.

I no longer use social media for obvious reasons so I can only advise and wish those unsuspecting associates well, in the hope they will soon realise and learn from the errors of their ways. That they will not lose any interest or subscribers since people are getting rather sick of seeing the bullies being thrust in their faces continuously. This only goes to show how disgusted they are, with the treatment and childish behaviour towards themselves, and me in the past.

The deaf world is fast becoming much too small for some people’s liking so it is inevitable that it is a case of, “Hasta la vista” for some of us but…

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In a very camp manner, I would like to embrace the hearing world with open arms and excitedly exclaim “Hiya!” and re-settle once again into a much more hospitable, amicable and respectable place.

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~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Here’s To Steve Jobs

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Last year or the year before, I watched a film starring Ashton Kutcher who portrayed Steve Jobs and how Apple came about. It was then I realised just how I was not alone, in being bullied by their own staff.

When I remarked on the film back then, I was informed that he was actually the bully (!) but I knew deep down this was not the case or the truth. He had to be tough, to avoid being manipulated or taken advantage of, and cast aside despite founding Apple. It was his determination, influence and passion that helped to create Apple and its products, with a uniqueness found nowhere else thus changing the future.

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He had to stand and protect his ground, against the power mad and jealous staff who obviously wanted to overthrow him. He was in fact, the one being bullied and it is only thanks to those who respected him and his position as the founder, that he eventually got his company back and the wayward members of staff was removed for their despicable actions and childish behaviour.

I am so glad he carried on with his vision and am somewhat thankful I saw the film when I did because I recognised the same patterns and as a result, I was more or less “prepared” for what was happening realisically and predicted, for myself. His experiences along those selected few, who stayed true to me, gave me the confidence and courage to go on.

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I am looking forwards to seeing the new film depicting Steve Jobs’ life since I admire who he was, which was a result of those around him showing him who not to be. To learn more about his character and why he was, who he was. Furthermore, why I can relate to him and his words of wisdom.

There is a reason for everything and there will always be another side to a coin. The truth in the end, prevails however late it may come out so as they say, better late than never.

Considering I feel a certain kinship to him, here’s to Steve Jobs… 🙂

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

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A Sociopath is….

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I have had more than my fair share of being subjected to bullies and sociopaths in the past and here is a list I have compiled from my experiences, which could assist you in defining and determining who / what a sociopath is…

They come across as being rather charismatic but in the end, is actually quite glib.

Even though they appear so certain of themselves, they are in fact paranoid.

They have strange sexual tendency or fetish(es).

They will warm to, suck up to anyone that is currently in the limelight, thus try to be in or steal the limelight.

They tell lies only to deceive but for some, they may lie compulsively.

They are able to manipulate their lies into sounding something very much like the truth due to their confidence and assertiveness to convince and dominate others.

They are unable to feel any guilt or remorse and have complete disregard for your emotional well-being or opinions and the consequences of their actions.

They will engineer situations and manipulate people into doing what they desire through charm or aggressive means.

They, more than likely, will have hidden agendas.

They end up treating people with such disrespect and contempt especially as and when things do not go their way. Basically, they spit their dummies.

They tend to be short-tempered and at times, violent – if not most of the time.

They may mentally and / or physically abuse those closest to them.

They are rarely shy but will certainly experience a degree of trouble in suppressing their anger, impatience or annoyance.

They are incapable of holding a job or remaining in one place for long periods.

They usually work or has worked in sales.

They come across as self-centred, and will constantly post selfies for attention and compliments.

They somehow feel entitled so will be manipulative to gain such a position or authority, especially for their own gains.

They are often deluded, with notions of grandeur.

They quickly get bored so will venture elsewhere for some mental simulation.  Physically, they will be spontaneous, taking risks without assessing any potential repercussions.

They will fail to keep to any social arrangements once they are comfortable with their foot in the door with a current social group and eventually, will look elsewhere for more unsuspecting victims to manipulate, bully and challenge.

They often seek approval from others and have a hard time taking criticism whether it is constructive or not.

They are two-faced and at best, hypocritical but will vehemently deny it.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Pssst… Respect is earned, not given x

My Jolly Sailor Bold

For quite some time now, I have wanted to capture this scene since discussing it with an old school friend of mine a few years ago based on our deeper interpretation of it, depicting certain actions.

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Turning on the charm…

For example, the lengths anyone will go to, to engineer and exploit someone only for them to turn monstrous nearing the end or after their conquest(s) is sadly, all too common these days.

However, that is another whole blog post, but never fret; there is a message from yours truly, right at the very end of the scene! 😉

If one is willing to trash you in any sense without any regards to your feelings or consequences , go fish elsewhere. Hence, the message. 🙂

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Quality Rather Than Quantity…

Upon tidying up my hard drive, I stumbled across a folder and foolishly thought I could clear it out. Yet having gone through it all, being the evidence of what bullying I had previously endured and subsequently saved, it left me reeling once again with such utter disgust at the world – especially those who wish(ed) to behave and present themselves quite despicably. As I was not their only victim, I can wholly sympathise with the others too, this weighs my heart down even more so. It has been what seems to be a never-ending, extremely painful experience to undergo all that nastiness at the hands of such evilness.

“The good writers touch life often. The mediocre ones run a quick hand over her. The bad ones rape her and leave her for the flies.”
~ Ray Bradbury.

You can only imagine how elated I felt the other day, to learn that someone, Sean O’Brien, he who had been targeted via social media for his size and confidence was in fact being supported against his bully. His predator’s attempt to feed his own ego was thwarted. Big time. People’s attitudes and perceptions of today are changing, for the better and this means sociopaths are gradually being exposed. People are standing up, taller than ever before, having their voices heard, against the bullies – they are no longer following the flock of sheep but their own conscience for peace of mind and heart.

Please, do not be afraid to walk alone, to be yourself – ‘tis way better than letting them walk all over you – they are potentially manipulating, exploiting, engineering and compromising you for their own gains with little or no regards for your feelings or any consequences. Do not be afraid, to speak up – to anyone. Think of it all as a good test because in the end it will help you to find out along the way, whom you can trust and who you are or want to be since they are showing you, who not to be.

I have taken measures to prevent any further undesirables from entering my life for my children, and my family comes first. They are why I do not dare let the sadness, heartbreak, past memories and any thoughts of “them” creep in. Feelings are deceiving and extremely compromising.rocks-stone-zen-balance-calmA true friend would never abandon your side in your time of need, through thick or thin or even encourage the thought of compromising you – in any sense. Anyone that does can effectively “Do one”…

“Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk besides me and be my friend.”
~ Albert Camus.

I am more than certain you will believe me when I say I know who my friends are, they may be rather few at that but I do not mind because with me, it is a case of “Quality Rather Than Quantity”. On that note, here is a token of gratitude for those selected few who manage to stay true, for not looking down on any one except to help them back up. For they are the ones who know how it feels, to be felled.

It is oftentimes like this when I have to remind myself not to let “them” win and to soar even higher up above with an abundance of courage and positivity.

You so can do it too – Keep the faith x

~ SJ (Sara Jae)