Tears Of Strength

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“People cry, not because they’re weak. It’s because they’ve been strong for too long.”

~ Johnny Depp.

Even the strongest people inevitably crack a little with time. In having to be strong for others whilst trying to remain strong for my own sake is proving to be a challenge yet again. I thought I was doing rather well until such reminders started to revive the heartache, the memories and the love once more.

It is okay, to cry. It does after all, clean our tear ducts out! 🙂

In addition, it releases the built up pressure that little bit more.

I often tell my friends, (strangers also) whenever I recognize their struggles, that I am such a good listener that I now have to wear hearing aids. This always makes them smile and perhaps even, laugh. Job done? 🙂

I hope, with time, someone will be able to take my pain away but until then, I shall continue to be here and there, just for you.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

 

Priceless…

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“A kind heart: $0.00

A Smile: $0.00

Laughing with friends: $0.00

Time alone: $0.00

The benefit to those around you: WORTH A FORTUNE.”

The best things in life are free and does wonders.

Priceless indeed…

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

I May…

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“Truly honest people don’t have many friends, but they do have real friends.” ~ Steven Aitchison.

I may not have many friends who would stand by me, I may be too honest at times but at least it is the truth.

Thank you to those who do not mind me. High ten!

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Therapy, The Deaf Way.

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By SignHealth.

Over the past few weeks I have seen a campaign by SignHealth and their supporters from within the deaf community, steadily grow.

I wanted to share with you, my personal experience.

At one point last year, a deaf friend was concerned enough to put me into contact with someone offering their professional help except, how could I talk to them when their sibling was one of the bullies? The deaf world was much too small, typical and predictable for my liking. I felt extremely claustrophobic.

Eventually, my GP referred me for counselling to help lift me out of my depression and certain trains of thought. Members of the deaf community had brought all of my life altering experiences on so it was only natural for me to want to stick with a local counsellor, who was hearing and had very little (if no) experience with deaf clients.

My counsellor began the first of our many intensive sessions, asking if an interpreter should be present to help us communicate with ease. This was enough reason to make me clam up. I refused their offer politely and asked if we could continue without one, as I was confident it would work.

I did not at the time trust anyone that had any connections to the deaf community; enough to be anywhere near me. Not even an interpreter bound by confidence because they too, I could not trust.

In time, my counsellor’s deaf awareness grew with each session and once they took me by surprise by saying, “I am glad we didn’t use an interpreter because you would not have told me everything. You would have been extremely cautious. I did not think our sessions would work without one and you proved me wrong. You have taught me that not every deaf person needs an interpreter present and not every deaf person relies solely on sign language.”

Their acknowledgement and increased deaf awareness made my heart smile. I suddenly felt freer than I had ever been and that feeling of being finally understood, not just me but the deaf community too, how diverse it actually is and how our needs and abilities differ, was priceless. This was therapy, albeit my way.

Each to their own for reasons that should be known to themselves, only.

It is vital that we fight to retain our choice to be counselled however we wish, be it the deaf way or the hearing way in order to be at our most comfortable, for our therapy to succeed. And for that, we should be grateful such a service like SignHealth exists because they do work, for those who choose them. For those who need them. For those who solely rely on sign language, for they do exist.

No one deserves to be ignored.

I wish SignHealth all the best with their latest campaign, to continue providing “a national psychological therapy service where all the therapists are fluent in British Sign Language (BSL)”.

#TherapyTheDeafWay

Finally yet just as importantly, I would like to applaud SignHealth for adding captions to their videos, making it more inclusive and accessible to all. Thank you, for doing so. 🙂

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Each & Every Day.

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Make it count.

Whilst it is Mother’s Day, I actually cherish each and every day, and those in my life. As one should.

I feel extremely humbled almost every waking minute, having been given an exceptional second chance to be a daughter, sister, niece as well as a mother. Also, a friend.

Quite simply, I am grateful for the opportunities to be able to annoy you all once more, with my antics! 🙂 🙂 (Patience is a virtue?!)

I am truly honoured and privileged to be graced with the pleasure of your company. More than you realise.

As always, it is with heartfelt thanks to the NHS, their expertise and patience that you too get to share the memories made, being made and those yet to be made.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

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That Helpless Feeling…

Times like tonight I wished I could hear so much better (am experiencing temporary further loss in one ear) and communicate clearer.

There was this elderly (African) woman sitting on the steps of the train station, bawling her eyes out – clearly experiencing a lot of despair. I sympathised with her straight away albeit from a very short distant – I wanted to so much ask her if she was okay and if she had someone / somewhere to go to.

However, I knew I would not be able to understand her and I did not want to cause her any more stress. On the other hand, my daughter too so I proceeded to take my daughter to the athletics club and if the lady was still there when I returned, I would then assess the situation again.

Alas, she was not there…

I can only hope she is okay and sincerely apologise for not being able to do more. For I know just how much a helping hand can seem like the light at the end of the tunnel.

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My intentions were there…

~ SJ (Sara Jae)