Home, But Not At Home.

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Looks beware.

It took a lot out of me today, to remain calm and ignore this incredibly rude woman on the bus who refused to budge an inch for me and my pram, which carried my beautiful sleeping baby.

The bus was almost EMPTY but she was sitting right where the pram needs to be placed, safely. The priority seats for those with a pram or children. I was dumbfounded by her coldness and misery. Not one flicker of kindness or consideration to let me pass, her, to access the empty seat next to her so I could sit next to / with my baby.

I decided not to let her dictate the whole situation and submit to her evilness so I squeezed past her, between her and the pram and sat down. I felt her stony glare dig in and could see just how despicable she became, out of the corner of my eye. I focused on my baby who was my priority and smiled at her, reassuring her I was by her side so she could go back to sleep.

A sense of achievement overcame me, I had not allowed her to bully me based on her assumptions of me.

A kind stranger looked at me to see if I was okay because they too had noticed this woman’s attitude. I would have loved to vent right there and then with someone who witnessed it all, especially their dirty looks. Instead, a hint of a smile was managed.

Patience prevailed.

I was born in the United Kingdom and I have a British passport. I may not have pale white skin or “English” features but that does not give anyone the right to judge me or anyone else based on my / our looks or choice of clothing.

Who the hell do some people think they are? Piss off!

Words fail me, when I am made to feel like a foreigner in my own country. This may be my home country but I am most certainly, not at home.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Gangsta Granny…

The other day I took my usual walk but this time I chose the local park. I had stopped walking in there due to the high number of dogs roaming free. I do not mind dogs, as long as their owners pick up their defacations after them.

I was enjoying what was a peaceful and tranquil stroll, admiring mother nature and her designs when suddenly this old lady came zooming and swerving at me in her mobility scooter. I was frozen to the spot out of sheer astonishment. I managed to hear her grumbling away but the overall speed did not allow me to understand what I had done wrong, if anything. This was not a race course after all…

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I decided I was not in the wrong, she was, simply because this was a public park, with narrow public paths – for two pedestrians. Not some gangsta granny with some right of way and over the rest of the world. I then approached a member of staff and explained that there was an old lady on a mobility scooter, who very nearly ran me down.

“She has a dog?” he asked, I nodded. “We know about her” he added.

The realisation set in that I was not the first – how many others were there?

Upon sharing my experience with local friends, they inform me that there is an old lady that lives here, who has an ASBO for the way she drives her mobility scooter.

Seriously?!

Why don’t people have to have a license to own a mobility scooter? Not everyone is ‘all there’ and not everyone can safely drive one. In the wrong hands, they can be fatally dangerous and destructive. “Much like some drivers need to have their license taken away.” a friend reflected.

Respect is earned, not given.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

 

It Takes Two To Tango.

These past few weeks have been rather enlightening because I have been reminded, just how disrespectful people can be.

I do not appreciate being watched, looked down at, ignored etc and this is not only on social media either. Sadly.

Many a time I have gone out of my way to help another, to be patient with another, to be there for another yet for the respect not to be returned, is just plain rude. For them to be unwilling to accept me for who I am and the starkness of my honesty, of which contradicts the lies they spew – this can only explain their anger. Haters can go ahead and waste their precious time, hating.

If they cannot find an iota of kindness from within them to pay respect in return or make some room for you, remember that your self worth outweighs theirs by far.

I reserve the right to be comfortable in what I consider to be, MY space. If the respect and patience is not going to be returned,  then watch me walk away.

As simple as that because after all, it takes two to tango. 🙂

In order for one to be comfortable and happier, one has to be willing to lose connections with the “noise” in our lives.

“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.”

~ Alexander Den Heijer

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~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Not Worthless

I forget this sometimes and I just wanted to remind you too. Some of you have valued me and made me feel worthy. Without you knowing it, it has kept me going. Thank you. I for one, know how lucky I am to still exist after knocking on death’s door. Words cannot explain enough.

1911944_414947148640651_228177131_nCherish each and every thing, every being around you. Be happy – especially when the sun is shining!

Photo by SJ (Sara Jae)
Photo by SJ (Sara Jae)

Postitivity rules x

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

A Sociopath is….

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I have had more than my fair share of being subjected to bullies and sociopaths in the past and here is a list I have compiled from my experiences, which could assist you in defining and determining who / what a sociopath is…

They come across as being rather charismatic but in the end, is actually quite glib.

Even though they appear so certain of themselves, they are in fact paranoid.

They have strange sexual tendency or fetish(es).

They will warm to, suck up to anyone that is currently in the limelight, thus try to be in or steal the limelight.

They tell lies only to deceive but for some, they may lie compulsively.

They are able to manipulate their lies into sounding something very much like the truth due to their confidence and assertiveness to convince and dominate others.

They are unable to feel any guilt or remorse and have complete disregard for your emotional well-being or opinions and the consequences of their actions.

They will engineer situations and manipulate people into doing what they desire through charm or aggressive means.

They, more than likely, will have hidden agendas.

They end up treating people with such disrespect and contempt especially as and when things do not go their way. Basically, they spit their dummies.

They tend to be short-tempered and at times, violent – if not most of the time.

They may mentally and / or physically abuse those closest to them.

They are rarely shy but will certainly experience a degree of trouble in suppressing their anger, impatience or annoyance.

They are incapable of holding a job or remaining in one place for long periods.

They usually work or has worked in sales.

They come across as self-centred, and will constantly post selfies for attention and compliments.

They somehow feel entitled so will be manipulative to gain such a position or authority, especially for their own gains.

They are often deluded, with notions of grandeur.

They quickly get bored so will venture elsewhere for some mental simulation.  Physically, they will be spontaneous, taking risks without assessing any potential repercussions.

They will fail to keep to any social arrangements once they are comfortable with their foot in the door with a current social group and eventually, will look elsewhere for more unsuspecting victims to manipulate, bully and challenge.

They often seek approval from others and have a hard time taking criticism whether it is constructive or not.

They are two-faced and at best, hypocritical but will vehemently deny it.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Pssst… Respect is earned, not given x