A Woman Of Strength

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“A strong woman knows she has strength enough for the journey, but a woman of strength knows it is in the journey where she will become strong.”

“A woman’s strength isn’t just about how much she can handle before she breaks. It’s also about how much she must handle, after she’s broken.”

“I’ve battled my whole life to become the woman I am today. If you think you can take me down after all that I’ve already been through, give it your best shot. You will not succeed.”

The lion in me will never retreat…

“Lions do not lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.”

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Tears Of Strength

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“People cry, not because they’re weak. It’s because they’ve been strong for too long.”

~ Johnny Depp.

Even the strongest people inevitably crack a little with time. In having to be strong for others whilst trying to remain strong for my own sake is proving to be a challenge yet again. I thought I was doing rather well until such reminders started to revive the heartache, the memories and the love once more.

It is okay, to cry. It does after all, clean our tear ducts out! ūüôā

In addition, it releases the built up pressure that little bit more.

I often tell my friends, (strangers also) whenever I recognize their struggles, that I am such a good listener that I now have to wear hearing aids.¬†This always makes them smile and perhaps even, laugh. Job done? ūüôā

I hope, with time, someone will be able to take my pain away but until then, I shall continue to be here and there, just for you.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

 

The Best Of Us

It takes one to know one, so keep on being strong and true to oneself.

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Life has tried me… but it¬†can keep on trying!

‚ÄúIf you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.‚Ä̬†– Roald Dahl.

So, use your smile to change the world – don’t let the world change your smile. (it also suits you x)

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Just The Way We Are

Once I had to tell someone to “Take me as I am or not at all” because they were trying to control me… I ended up walking away from him, much to his demise.

We all deserve to be respected for who we are, not to be told who to be or what to do,

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Last but not least, do not forget one of my favourites quotes of all… By Dr Seuss:

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We are amazing, just the way we are. We may not be perfect but we will be perfect for that special someone.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Here’s To Steve Jobs

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Last year or the year before, I watched a film starring Ashton Kutcher who portrayed Steve Jobs and how Apple came about. It was then I realised just how I was not alone, in being bullied by their own staff.

When I remarked on the film back then, I was informed that he was actually the bully (!) but I knew deep down this was not the case or the truth. He had to be tough, to avoid being manipulated or taken advantage of, and cast aside despite founding Apple. It was his determination, influence and passion that helped to create Apple and its products, with a uniqueness found nowhere else thus changing the future.

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He had to stand and protect his ground, against the power mad and jealous staff who obviously wanted to overthrow him. He was in fact, the one being bullied and it is only thanks to those who respected him and his position as the founder, that he eventually got his company back and the wayward members of staff was removed for their despicable actions and childish behaviour.

I am so glad he carried on with his vision and am somewhat thankful I saw the film when I did because I recognised the same patterns and as a result, I was more or less “prepared” for what was happening realisically and predicted, for myself. His experiences along those selected few, who stayed true to me, gave me the confidence and courage to go on.

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I am looking forwards to seeing the new film depicting¬†Steve Jobs’ life since I admire who he was, which was a result of those around him showing him who not to be. To learn more about his character and why he was, who he was. Furthermore, why I can relate to him and his words of wisdom.

There is a reason for everything and there will always be another side to a coin. The truth in the end, prevails however late it may come out so as they say, better late than never.

Considering¬†I feel a certain kinship to him, here’s to Steve Jobs… ūüôā

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

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Where Would It All End?

An extremely thorny subject for me to discuss however, I want to try to help warn girls out there against those who may try to use such tactics,that are basically, forms of sexual exploitation.

What I find most disturbing is that this form of sexual exploitation can occur at any age but perhaps the younger they are, the more vulnerable. However, adults are victims too, without realising it.

How many times has a person be it a friend or online asked you for a photo of yourself? This is otherwise known as ‚ÄėSexting‚Äô. They will send you a photo of themselves, and pester you for a photo of yourself. You refuse to send one yet the pressure increases in their coercion tactics because they have sent you several and declare it is only fair you send them one in return. One fully clothed innocent photo will only give way to the next, and the next, and the next‚Ķ They see their chance in this test of theirs and seize that path in exploiting you further. Where would it all end?

They ask to meet up with you, make you their best friend, their rock. Tell you they like you and make the first move, engineering a sense of love and happiness. Despite your being so guarded due to past experiences and fears of being hurt yet again‚Äď they realise this and reassure you they are not like that, tricking you into bringing down your defensive walls. They eventually enter your heart with their charms and constant attention. The intimacy is¬†gradually¬†geared¬†up, making you believe it is all consensual. Any doubts are swayed by illusions and their desire to control and dominate you. They may expect favours or sex in return, without you having any immediate recognition. Except, once¬†they are satisfied and no longer have any need for you, their true colours are shown.

Where would it all end? I ask once more. In heartbreak, of course but the worst kind ever. Weighed down even more so by the losses of confidence, appetites, faith, trust and heightened fear of people Рespecially those in authority. Depression, withdrawal and mood swings. Disliking shows of affection or invasions of personal space such as being hugged or touched once more, simply because they cannot handle it Рit becomes too much. Loss of sleep and/or nightmares. Increasing levels of frustrations and resistance Рpeople are kept at a distance and a degree of aggressiveness is displayed when any personal connections are attempted in order to push them further away. One may even turn to drugs, or more having had potentially their souls destroyed by being built up to mean something so special only to be trampled upon.

These are some of the warning signs associated with not just sexual exploitation and grooming but unfortunately the broader spectrum of exploitation in abuse or neglect also.

Be strong, do not be afraid to speak up or report people for their actions and the consequences of which they are responsible for. My only regret is that I let far too much time pass before I found the confidence and courage to be honest, with myself and others. I most certainly am not willing to lie or cover for any one else.

Please, keep your wits about you and guard your virtues ūüôā

Time is the best medicine.
Time is the best healer.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)