The Dark Side.

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I read this article some time ago and it well and truly stopped me in my tracks. I felt as though my soul was naked. To an extent of course.

A Dark Part Of Empathic People That You Rarely See.

Empaths are typically known as the healers of the world. They’re the people whose senses are heightened–the ones that not only see the different energies of the world, but actually feel them, experience them.

Those who are not empaths might think that this ability to feel what others feel is a gift, but if you can convince an empath to talk about their gift, they might tell you that it’s not always sunshine and rainbows. In fact, it’s quite often not a very fun gift to possess at all.

Because of their gift, so many people rely on them for support. Empaths are almost always trusted because they make people feel safe. And while the empath is capable of handling the emotions of others, they also experience quite a bit of stress because of it.

The dark side of being an empath comes in the form of having two conflicting voices constantly roaring at each other inside of their heads. Constantly feeling both the good and the bad, the negative and the positive, to the point that they feel overwhelmed.

Empaths are more susceptible to the negative energies in life. Their intense ability to feel can’t get away from the deep-rooted evils that exist in the world. Their deep understanding of how the world exists and operates is enough to confuse and sadden them. What they can’t understand is why this type of energy exists in the first place, if all it does is hurt others.

The dark side of being an empath is constantly being exhausted and fatigued from the energies you absorb. But, you’d never know it. Because the empath never dares break down or lose composure. They quietly observe, acknowledge and feel.

As many others do, empaths want to be loved and accepted for who they are. But, it is their generosity and kindness that often sees them being taken advantage of by those who only take, never give. Empaths are ‘givers’ by all means, ready to show kindness to those in need at all times.

The dark side of being an empath is not knowing that being so selfless places an incredibly heavy burden on one’s self. Even the empaths that do recognize the burdensome nature of their selflessness often choose to ignore it, because carrying that weight is more meaningful than letting it fall on someone else’s shoulders.

The dark side of being an empath is knowing that you willingly neglect both your body and mind for the sake of others. A neglect that builds over the years, eventually resulting in the need to go soul-searching once again, a practice that we only take up when we feel completely lost.

The dark side of being an empath is knowing that even when they fall in love, they never do so entirely. They simply aren’t capable of giving every ounce of their heart to someone else. They know that if they tried, the intensity of the passion would most likely be too much to handle, for themselves and their partners.

Which is why they always keep a little part of them hidden away from the rest of the world. They keep a guard up out of necessity, even if they want nothing more than to let it down and succumb to an overwhelming love.

The dark side of being an empath is the war that is always being waged within. The war they wage against the sadness, the darkness, and the sorrowful side of themselves that is always trying to rear its ugly head and lead them into self-destruction.

The only way they can fight this successfully is by learning to distinguish between emotions that are their own, and emotional energies that are imposters, invading from the outside. Empaths need people who understand who they are, people they can talk to and who will listen.

Empaths need to be able to let down the wall they’ve built up around their feelings so that they can let their empathic selves do good in their own life.

Otherwise, empaths are destined to fight a war within themselves that never ends.

Author unknown.

Welcome, to the dark side, of my world.

I have although, learnt to say no. Not forgetting, keeping a distance from any unsavouriness.Thankfully. 😊 I am so grateful, that this attribute has helped me to foresee situations, to see through people. To be stronger in essence.

What works is taking one step at a time, one day at a time.

Positivity, still rules.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

 

 

Air Karate Chops.

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Not long ago, I was cherishing a cuddle with baby when I suddenly felt something tickling my neck. It continued so I tried to feel what it was. Looked at my hand and there was this spider hogging my fingers. Shock horror!! 😱 Shook my hand in terror 👋🏼 and jumped up off the sofa, 🏃🏽‍♀️clinging onto baby for security and reassurance – she was oblivious and carefree, 💪🏼 the most courageous baby ever. Whereas, 😳 shame on me! 😩😩😩

Last night I was sleeping 😴… blissfully. I think! My hand felt a tickle… I woke up in alarm and did a karate chop in the air 👋🏼 to flick off any 8 legged crawlies that did NOT have my permission to be on or near my body….😤 Was it the very same spider haunting me or my hair? God only knows – I don’t want to know! 🤚🏼

Today… 😬😬😬😬… I had to grit my teeth every time I felt a tickle on my neck. No, nothing to attack the air with for my hair is now short enough to fool me, to tease me. 😓😓😓

Just one of the challenges of having ultra sensitive skin, heightened due to being hearing impaired.

Tip – check between your bedcovers before you go to bed and always, I mean always! turn your shoes upside down and shake before putting them on! 😜😜😜

I only started checking my footwear because I had seen on TV, a scorpion that sought warmth inside someone’s slippers. I have caught several spiders that way so it definitely works! A hearing friend once told me that they can hear whenever there is a spider inside their footwear for it goes pop… Urgh.

Last but not least, a friend of mine whose boyfriend was going to throw a spider he caught, over their balcony and she told him not to because he would kill it. To flush it down the toilet instead. There I sat, puzzled! Go figure.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

In My Life…

Little do people know that I knocked on death’s door, three times in a year. That year was a life changing experience, not just for me but for my family and close friends also.

Hence why, this song is more than apt, for all those in my life because only I know, how it feels to love and cherish others that much more.

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~ SJ (Sara Jae)

You Ain’t Heavy…

Today, I was reminded of this song, which holds precious childhood memories. This song naturally means a lot to me, especially the hidden meaning behind it.

“Whatever the theme, “He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother” describes a stronger person, either emotionally or physically who uncomplainingly provides support for someone, may be a brother or maybe just a friend or even an acquaintance who is finding it more difficult to make the same journey. The singer’s only complaint is that not everyone is prepared to make the same compromises.”

“He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother”

The road is long
With many a winding turn
That leads us to who knows where
Who knows when
But I’m strong
Strong enough to carry him
He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother

So on we go
His welfare is of my concern
No burden is he to bear
We’ll get there
For I know
He would not encumber me
He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother

If I’m laden at all
I’m laden with sadness
That everyone’s heart
Isn’t filled with the gladness
Of love for one another

It’s a long, long road
From which there is no return
While we’re on the way to there
Why not share
And the load
Doesn’t weigh me down at all
He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother

He’s my brother
He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother…

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There is a reason for everything, even if it is not obvious to you or myself.Be kind and patient, always.

“Life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced” ~ Soren Kirkegaard.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)