Time Out…

Time out

There is so much love in the air at this point in time that it is making me think twice, perhaps even thrice, about everything. Everyone….

Being reminded of how it feels to fall in love, being in love and thus feeling loved, is pretty hard going. Some people can shrug it off and get on with life whereas others will just crumble, from time to time.

It is okay; to crumble. It is okay, to have a cry. It is okay, to be angry. What we all need to remember is that we, each and every one of us, is to be kind to ourselves and not over think. Too many “what if’s” isn’t healthy, too much time spent ruminating, also isn’t healthy.

I find it helps to visually sort out all the thoughts and emotions into a box and pack them away. Dispatching it even. Seeing and feeling the weight fade away.

There is no such thing as a perfect person but there is and there will be, someone that is perfect for you… and me. Until then, let us reserve our hearts.

Meanwhile, do make sure to take some time out each and every day, to treat yourself. For a little dab of my favorite perfume and a mug of hot chocolate, to me, is priceless.

You deserve it and so much more.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

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Dearest Sara,

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Dearest Sara,

Having not put pen to paper for quite some time, I thought I would dedicate this perfect moment to your good self.

The way you fare in life after knocking on death’s door, will be the greatest test to overcome. Simply because, better times await you.

At first, you will not understand why you survived and feel guilty for having done so. As a result, you will appreciate and cherish life, integrity, nature’s designs but most of all, each and every waking moment even more so. At times this may hurt, all because you cannot explain or stress just how precarious life or short, time, is.

Such an experience will benefit you with more wisdom, to see through people, to expand on thinking outside the box and enable you to predict consequences. To recognise better, the evil that’s out there and the many forms it takes.

People will try their best to exploit your kindness for their own gains but you will stand tall courageously and prevail. With their disdain, they will try with all their might to turn others against you. This too, will be in vain.

Whilst life does not come with any instructions, all one can do is listen to our hearts and subsequently understand, what our elders before us, wished. Since history, tends to rhyme.

There will be times when you will feel anxious, such as your precious angels embarking on a life all of their own, anticipating the familiar faces of evil they too, will inevitably encounter. Or quite simply, due to the fact that you survived not once, not twice but three times, that something is bound to happen to you because you, technically, should not be here. Yet, you are meant to be and you will come to understand why.

There will be times when you feel such anger at ghosts of past, who chose to inflict pain and heartache upon you. Alternatively, pure frustration at people’s triviality alone. You will learn, to let it go.

There will be times when you bring sincere meaning to others with just a smile from the bottom of your heart, the kindest word or two and/or gesture – you may not always know it but this will truly make their day. You will come to realise just how vital this can be to someone else, for it’ll save you also.

Grit your teeth, sit on your hands (not too often!), remain the extremely patient, honest and considerate person you are. One who is not afraid to kick ass, either.

Take it one step, one moment, one day at a time.

Not everything is or will be as it seems. You cannot stop the (sound) waves but you can learn to surf so keep on going with the flow, for it suits you so.

Be kind to yourself yet always bear it in mind, that it is okay to say no, that it is okay to be a little bit selfish. To have some “me time”.

Trust in fate since everything and everyone that happens, is predestined. In time, the answers to your many why’s will figure, in all senses.

Don’t be discouraged, don’t be unhappy and don’t be afraid to stay true to yourself, keep the faith in who you are, why you are who you are – you will be more than fine. For you are EXCEPTIONAL, more than you will ever come to realise. You may not always feel it but people do LOVE you, your feistiness even. Those around you consider themselves honoured, lucky today to still, be graced with the pleasure of YOUR company.

With the warmest of love and best wishes, on your birthday.

Your future self,

Sara xx

Ps Never underestimate the power of a written letter. 😉

A Fix.

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People have tried to bring Corbyn down precisely because of who he is.

One has to be a bully to get so far in politics and he is not one to slither, much unlike the snakes.

He knows the truth about Palestine, the war crimes Israel have committed and all sorts. He also isn’t afraid to speak the truth whereas everyone else most certainly has an agenda – in it for themselves.

Corbyn is very much for the people and what’s right.

It’s a shame people can’t see him for who he really is.

I admire his courage after having been through what I have. He has stuck it out when all else has tried to eliminate him. Quite simply, for being different. For staying true to himself and not conforming to peer pressure.

Some bedtime reading for you; 
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/sep/16/jeremy-corbyn-leadership-david-cameron-libya-labour

If May wins, it has been fixed.

Rant over. 😚

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

The Dark Side.

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I read this article some time ago and it well and truly stopped me in my tracks. I felt as though my soul was naked. To an extent of course.

A Dark Part Of Empathic People That You Rarely See.

Empaths are typically known as the healers of the world. They’re the people whose senses are heightened–the ones that not only see the different energies of the world, but actually feel them, experience them.

Those who are not empaths might think that this ability to feel what others feel is a gift, but if you can convince an empath to talk about their gift, they might tell you that it’s not always sunshine and rainbows. In fact, it’s quite often not a very fun gift to possess at all.

Because of their gift, so many people rely on them for support. Empaths are almost always trusted because they make people feel safe. And while the empath is capable of handling the emotions of others, they also experience quite a bit of stress because of it.

The dark side of being an empath comes in the form of having two conflicting voices constantly roaring at each other inside of their heads. Constantly feeling both the good and the bad, the negative and the positive, to the point that they feel overwhelmed.

Empaths are more susceptible to the negative energies in life. Their intense ability to feel can’t get away from the deep-rooted evils that exist in the world. Their deep understanding of how the world exists and operates is enough to confuse and sadden them. What they can’t understand is why this type of energy exists in the first place, if all it does is hurt others.

The dark side of being an empath is constantly being exhausted and fatigued from the energies you absorb. But, you’d never know it. Because the empath never dares break down or lose composure. They quietly observe, acknowledge and feel.

As many others do, empaths want to be loved and accepted for who they are. But, it is their generosity and kindness that often sees them being taken advantage of by those who only take, never give. Empaths are ‘givers’ by all means, ready to show kindness to those in need at all times.

The dark side of being an empath is not knowing that being so selfless places an incredibly heavy burden on one’s self. Even the empaths that do recognize the burdensome nature of their selflessness often choose to ignore it, because carrying that weight is more meaningful than letting it fall on someone else’s shoulders.

The dark side of being an empath is knowing that you willingly neglect both your body and mind for the sake of others. A neglect that builds over the years, eventually resulting in the need to go soul-searching once again, a practice that we only take up when we feel completely lost.

The dark side of being an empath is knowing that even when they fall in love, they never do so entirely. They simply aren’t capable of giving every ounce of their heart to someone else. They know that if they tried, the intensity of the passion would most likely be too much to handle, for themselves and their partners.

Which is why they always keep a little part of them hidden away from the rest of the world. They keep a guard up out of necessity, even if they want nothing more than to let it down and succumb to an overwhelming love.

The dark side of being an empath is the war that is always being waged within. The war they wage against the sadness, the darkness, and the sorrowful side of themselves that is always trying to rear its ugly head and lead them into self-destruction.

The only way they can fight this successfully is by learning to distinguish between emotions that are their own, and emotional energies that are imposters, invading from the outside. Empaths need people who understand who they are, people they can talk to and who will listen.

Empaths need to be able to let down the wall they’ve built up around their feelings so that they can let their empathic selves do good in their own life.

Otherwise, empaths are destined to fight a war within themselves that never ends.

Author unknown.

Welcome, to the dark side, of my world.

I have although, learnt to say no. Not forgetting, keeping a distance from any unsavouriness.Thankfully. 😊 I am so grateful, that this attribute has helped me to foresee situations, to see through people. To be stronger in essence.

What works is taking one step at a time, one day at a time.

Positivity, still rules.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

 

 

Air Karate Chops.

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Not long ago, I was cherishing a cuddle with baby when I suddenly felt something tickling my neck. It continued so I tried to feel what it was. Looked at my hand and there was this spider hogging my fingers. Shock horror!! 😱 Shook my hand in terror 👋🏼 and jumped up off the sofa, 🏃🏽‍♀️clinging onto baby for security and reassurance – she was oblivious and carefree, 💪🏼 the most courageous baby ever. Whereas, 😳 shame on me! 😩😩😩

Last night I was sleeping 😴… blissfully. I think! My hand felt a tickle… I woke up in alarm and did a karate chop in the air 👋🏼 to flick off any 8 legged crawlies that did NOT have my permission to be on or near my body….😤 Was it the very same spider haunting me or my hair? God only knows – I don’t want to know! 🤚🏼

Today… 😬😬😬😬… I had to grit my teeth every time I felt a tickle on my neck. No, nothing to attack the air with for my hair is now short enough to fool me, to tease me. 😓😓😓

Just one of the challenges of having ultra sensitive skin, heightened due to being hearing impaired.

Tip – check between your bedcovers before you go to bed and always, I mean always! turn your shoes upside down and shake before putting them on! 😜😜😜

I only started checking my footwear because I had seen on TV, a scorpion that sought warmth inside someone’s slippers. I have caught several spiders that way so it definitely works! A hearing friend once told me that they can hear whenever there is a spider inside their footwear for it goes pop… Urgh.

Last but not least, a friend of mine whose boyfriend was going to throw a spider he caught, over their balcony and she told him not to because he would kill it. To flush it down the toilet instead. There I sat, puzzled! Go figure.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)