Hasta La Vista!

say goodbye

Only quite recently, I was made aware of some genuine concerns that some of my friends had, which were complaints that certain people and charities are associating themselves with those who bullied me and others in the past.

The miscreants back then forced our mutual friends to pick sides, theirs or mine. (I have since kept the evidence and there are witnesses!) However, I would never dream of imposing such a predicament upon someone else who had done absolutely nothing wrong.

What rights does anyone have to unleash his or her negativity unto innocent bystanders? This only proves their fears of losing face and letting paranoia take over. What made it permissible for them to put innocent people in such an awkward and unfair position? One considers it as another form of bullying and it is people like them, who need a good slap for their triviality.

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I advised my concerned friends to have their voices heard and to speak the truth but they are too afraid of being identified and singled out in retaliation.

Rather unfortunately, this is what the deaf world is like and because of all the disregard others have unto ourselves by toying with us as if we were pawns in agendas of theirs, I no longer want any part of it. Especially for as long as they are around continuing to manipulate people with their lies, distorting / obscuring the truth and using / manipulating people for their own gains.

I no longer use social media for obvious reasons so I can only advise and wish those unsuspecting associates well, in the hope they will soon realise and learn from the errors of their ways. That they will not lose any interest or subscribers since people are getting rather sick of seeing the bullies being thrust in their faces continuously. This only goes to show how disgusted they are, with the treatment and childish behaviour towards themselves, and me in the past.

The deaf world is fast becoming much too small for some people’s liking so it is inevitable that it is a case of, “Hasta la vista” for some of us but…

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In a very camp manner, I would like to embrace the hearing world with open arms and excitedly exclaim “Hiya!” and re-settle once again into a much more hospitable, amicable and respectable place.

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~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Social Media – The Biggest Playground, Ever.

Social media has unfortunately become quite the tool for adults to manipulate others on what was intended to keep “Friends” in contact – socially. However, if one falls out of favour, it becomes quite the playground for those to bitch, backstab and sometimes publicly, but for sure privately, defame characters.

People have approached me asking me not to allow certain people into my FB group – who are they to tell me what to do? Just because their experience with them was more or less negative does not mean my own experience will be the same so to avoid being influenced by hearsay and rumours, I gave those concerned the chance that no one else would and I am so glad that I did because every being deserves respect – regardless.

Social media has otherwise become the perfect platform for deaf people to visually keep in contact, real-time wise. However, the deaf community is oh so small so when one doesn’t get their way, they will stamp their feet and go one step further to manipulate friends, even mutual friends away from the person who stood up to them and held their ground. Is this behaviour acceptable? No! In a school playground, this would be extremely petty and childish… So much so, they would be laughed at and frowned upon by their teachers. Now, let us apply the same perceptions on people’s (mis)behaviour albeit via social media.

Do children ever actually grow up, learning to respect others and behave accordingly or is this actually an evil trait that is being compounded by desires, jealousy, greed and god knows what else? Not that long ago I posted on my FB wall that I would be removing those (on my friend list) who appeared to take to social media like wildfire, to publicly bully and joined the (m)asses in embarrassing themselves, over some poor woman’s appearance. How dare people laugh at and pick on someone else’s misfortunes, beliefs or who they may choose to be?!

There was a time when I was an admin on another group and on that admin board; the other admins were taking the mickey out of a member’s level of intelligence. I was appalled to say the least and put them on the spot by making them look at how they were behaving. Nevertheless, because I am not afraid of saying things as it is, seeking justice for all, I am relatively made out to be the aggressor when in fact, they are the ones who have defined their true colours, by instigating and encouraging others to join ranks with them. Thank you but no thank you – one would very much rather walk alone than be associated with the likes of them.

What I find extremely sad is the fact that no one else is able to actually SEE what is happening before their very own eyes, who is influencing them – who exactly is being the manipulator thus becoming the manipulated. This I find annoyingly frustrating. Unfortunately, people can be rather trivial and lose perspective in the ways of life, unable to correct themselves and respect others. Perhaps most importantly, unable to resist these undesirable traits / people. I say, let them continue to (mis)behave in a childlike way for what potentially goes around, comes around.

I truly sympathise with those who dislike using social media and understand where they are coming from – even their untold reasons why which no one should ever have to explain, for life should not be about trolls and bullies who have nothing better to do but destroy those in their paths. They deserve to be labelled as sociopaths and exposed for who they truly are. Shame on them. You know who you are.

It is about time “adults” take responsibility for their own actions and for the consequences of such actions by treating people like pawns in what is a backwards game – competing for popularity. Seriously, social media platforms need to clamp down on such people abusing their intended services and for turning it into one of the biggest playgrounds – ever.

An adults playground.

A word of advice into the ears of those being abused – take comfort in knowing they have shown you who not to be and please, do not be afraid to be yourself – remain patient, courageous, stand up and tell them to “Do one!”. Meanwhile, keep all the evidence and report them, to the social media moderators, the police and their employers. For if, they want to behave in such a despicable manner then so be it – let them be despised.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

It’s Nice, To Be Nice.

Around the same time as reporting some of the unsavoury behaviour by “others”, “friends” (from the same circle) took it upon themselves to involve my daughter by deciding that we were no longer welcome as part of an organised group outing, an event via the Tree House – that we could not watch “Peter Pan” by Chickenshed, with them when I had already paid for our tickets.

The point at the time was that two of these “friends” who are well-known to Chickenshed therefore they were bringing Chickenshed into disrepute by deciding themselves that I and my daughter could not come to watch a show by Chickenshed. Lizzie Ward-McLaughlan (also known as Elizabeth Ward) and her husband, Daniel Ward-McLaughlan, did not even give me a chance or the choice, to ask whether I wanted the tickets myself to sell on at face value so I could get my money back or if I/we still wanted to go… They simply decided for us and that, we were no longer welcome. Just like that?! All due to their personal bias and manipulation / influence from others – they all, also went around spreading lies to deter people from using the Tree House and to destroy me by defaming my character.

They wanted particular details to send me, my refund but I was suspicious that they would use my private details for other reasons and so I refused to share that and requested the refund be donated to a charity instead with proof of receipt for my records. This made losing the money for the tickets I bought, that bit less painful.

We were all appalled at this form of despicable behaviour and how childish “they” were being. My daughter is only 8 years old at this point in time and she was being so much more mature than they were, despite being let down over an opportunity to watch an inspirational show by inspirational people.

Of course, I decided to report them to Chickenshed because this was wrong and extremely unfair, especially on my daughter who was looking forwards to going out on a wintry night to watch a Christmas pantomime amidst the christmas cheer. Stuff like this, for children, is what memories are made of but then again “they” all didn’t have any children so “they” would never understand the disappointment, responsibilities and priorities I had.

I sent Chickenshed all the hard evidence and correspondence I had experienced, asking Chickenshed to make “them” stop in their tracks and to make them think of the consequences their actions were having, on Chickenshed too.

Chickenshed very kindly took it all on board and offered me two tickets out of goodwill, for another performance instead. Which was very much appreciated at the time and we were extremely grateful for. Result!

A drop of kindness goes a long way and it does not do any harm…