Carried By Your Love

 

Heart at the human hands

“Sensitive people are the most genuine and honest people you will ever meet. There is nothing they won’t tell you about themselves if they trust your kindness. However, the moment you betray them, reject them or devalue them, they will end the friendship. They live with guilt and constant pain over unresolved situations and misunderstandings. They are tortured souls that are not able to live with hatred or being hated. This type of person needs the most love anyone can give them because their soul has been constantly bruised by others. However, despite the tragedy of what they have to go through in life, they remain the most compassionate people worth knowing and the ones that often become activists for the broken-hearted, forgotten and the misunderstood. They are angels with broken wings that only fly when loved.”

~ Shannon L. Alder

This quote truly stopped me in my tracks today, thank you my friends, for carrying me – you know who you are. 🙂

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Do One!

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I rather like what the lady is telling “them” to do, which is… “Do One!

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I know some of you will be able to relate, understand and sympathise.

As for the narcissists? They know who they are and… We know who they are. 🙂

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

The Right To Decide by Catherine Vest

A vlog about one’s very personal experiences was shared publically, this relatively hit home.

Vlog: https://www.facebook.com/cmcastil/posts/10102003581703274?__mref=message

Transcription:

“This is in regards to ‪#‎whyisign‬— I am one of those unfortunate individuals who was forced to learn ASL purely for survival. I was not linguistically deprived and was happy with my current method, which was Signed Exact English (SEE), until I was placed in a deaf school. The transition at the deaf school was brutal and I was bullied horribly because I signed differently. It is akin to bullying someone else who spoke differently, like talking with a stutter, lisp or some kind of speech impediment.

While many of you consider that it is a human right to have access to our language, I doubt many of you did stop to consider the possibility that bullying or tormenting someone else who happen to have different signing skills— that you may have denied our right to decide whether SEE or ASL would be best suited to our needs.

You took away my right to decide if I wanted to learn ASL and took away something that I grew up with and served me very well in many areas of my life.

You do not get to decide how my signing should look like- just like with our unique ways of communicating. This is how my sign looks like and you do not get to tell me that it sucks or that it does not fit in your ideal vision of how sign language should look like.”

Meanwhile… I would like to applaud Catherine Vest, for her courage in speaking out – in many senses.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

I Miss You…

If only I could turn back the hands of time, I would have told you, that I loved you.

Then again, if you truly respected or loved me in return, you would not have kicked me whilst I was down, exploited and stabbed me in the back or expressed any disdain. To think, I would never have done any wrong by you, or anyone else.

Not a day goes by when I do not think of you, or wonder how you are, hoping that you are okay. Most importantly, if you are happy since happiness is all I ever wish(ed) for, for you. Then and now.

Losing the best of my friends over the past few years has been an extremely cathartic experience but it has not come without any consequences as a result, of your actions and choices. Due to the manner you behaved in, God only knows whether in the future, I would give you a second chance.

I thank you as well as the others, for showing me who not to be.

Yet despite your flaws, I miss you… Still.

All my love, more than you realise.

Then. Now. Always.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Dehumanization, Genocide & Apartheid

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When one reflects upon several excerpts from the book, “Native American Justice” by Lawrence Armand French and several (recent) events of our world, the truth becomes worryingly evident.

Such a complex topic deserves to be explored in great depths backed up with what sadly seems to be endless, occurrences worldwide for our references. I sincerely apologise in advance for roughly scratching the surface here, in brief with a couple of examples.

Israel recently re-introduced a ban barring Palestinian worshipers under the age of 50 from entering the Al-Aqsa mosque in Jerusalem for Friday’s prayers under the veil of “security reasons”. It is another measure to cut the young Palestinians off from their cultural heritage. They also went on to introduce a policy to ban Palestinians from travelling on the same buses as the Israelis. On the other hand, such acts should be defined as another form of apartheid. Of which, South Africa is slowly recovering from.

These types of measures are stark reminders of what went on in the past by Colonial masters

The white settlers in America once implemented similar tactics in dehumanizing and removing the Native American tribes from their lands. They had also been banned from their places of worship. The non-Indians who wanted to move in onto their land very sadly supported this atrocity. This can also be reflected in the current ethnocide of the Australian Aboriginals and so on.

Laurence French (Native American Justice)
Laurence French (Native American Justice)

There are tribal communities all over the world who have seen their lands being invaded, finding themselves being stripped of and banned from practising their own culture, religion and languages. One of the common tactics used in the olden days was to send a religious missionary ahead of an invasion, to convert the people of the land to the proposed religion yet by converting them, they were also being taught a foreign language, to get them “ready” unbeknownst to them, for the invader’s hidden agenda.

Laurence French (Native American Justice)
Laurence French (Native American Justice)

The people of our world have oftentimes found themselves resisting attempts at their race, cultures, identities, religions and so on, being bred out. All the tribal communities at various stages in our timeline inevitably soon found themselves a minority. It is criminal, to invade another’s land, strip the natives of their culture and impose your culture, your language and your religion unto them to satisfy your greed.

Laurence French (Native American Justice)
Laurence French (Native American Justice)

Algeria fortunately in time managed to defeat the occupying French. In North Africa for quite some time, the main language at places of education was French, not Arabic, as one would have expected. A native Arabic speaking student had to go to school, to learn subjects via the French language. If they did not know French, they did not fare well so in order to do well at school, they first had to learn a foreign language, French, to carry out their studies within their native homeland. Fortunately, this is not the case today, the governments in time overhauled the education system and Arabic was re-inserted, replacing the teaching methods being taught in French.

If we keep venturing on back in the history of the world, one would find the invader or the oppressor has systematically introduced laws or policies to strip the indigenous people of their ethnicity by way of dehumanization.

History is vitally important to the people of the world who have much to learn from it and its faults in order not to repeat the same mistakes once more yet it still recurs to this day. These cunning tactics and mistakes are not new – mistakes are meant to be learnt from, not repeated. If ever the opportunity arises to right a wrong, take it.

It does not help either, when the media turns a blind eye and a deaf ear to the truth on what is happening to the people of the world, today.

Thank you for your time and patience.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

The Cybernauts Of The Deep Web

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The other day, I was chatting to a friend about our favourite TV series. They realised just how much I enjoyed watching anything to do with forensic science, especially crime scenes.

Since our conversation, they have watched CSI Cyber and are now, hooked on it. The terminology for them is somewhat different but Google is a handy tool. They also stated they have often wondered just how much of the technology crime is real on such programmes…

I answered them speaking from experience having watched forensic science and all the police series to date, how it all felt rather familiar. How much I suspected they used real life experiences or cases from the past, to base their storyline on and in return, relatively use the knowledge gained from that crime unless otherwise stated that the “Storyline is not based on real life characters or crimes.”

CSI Cyber for them is proving to be very educational, making one more aware of what criminal activity could be committed via the use of technology. Though I deduce, it may make some people even more paranoid of technology, upon realising the extent of just how vulnerable one can be, to the know how’s, the miscreants or rather, the “black hats” as one would describe them.

I quote myself from an earlier article I wrote about the media’s influence, which also stands within this context…

“There is an online world being formed, which makes people feel able to take things into their own hands, making comments, posting YouTube videos or articles that spread like wildfire within seconds of it being publicized.”

It is sadly, quite the playground for bullies. One of the many disadvantages the cyber world has is that everyone is accessing and potentially misuses the same or similar info from the exact same places.

“Each one of us will interpret the context based on our personal knowledge, understanding and experiences. Not everyone will seek the truth or a deeper knowledge in order to be better informed about what we are being told or given to read, by or via the media.”

People forget just how quickly technology has contributed to riots of today whereas in the days of snail mail, only a fraction of the number would have taken heed and caught up in the act of which by then would have fizzled out.

The very same online world is not being policed adequately hence why cybercrimes are on the rise. Be it verbal and mental abuse, hacking of one nature or another, viruses, phishing and so on.

cybercrimeOnline banking is something I would never do since the cyber world is beyond our capabilities and understanding. If I could be ultra-confident my details were encrypted and private then maybe, just maybe I would be a little bit more trusting of the cyber world.

All the possibilities we leave ourselves open to, people just do not realise until it happens to them by which time, may be too late for some. Big brother may be watching yet they too, are just as vulnerable.

As with everything there is always a balance, there are good people out there who are genuinely trying to help people, needing the online world to benefit their causes, despite the black hats trying to spoil it, for the white hats.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Taken Out Of Context?!

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If Simone Joseph had the decency to speak with respect or kindness in the very first place, she would not be in the public eye for her racial verbal diarrhoea which she has since admitted to and was charged with yet had the audacity to try to deflect the blame by saying it was “taken out of context”.

So not funny.

If you are going be a bully and let the poison dictate who you are – you alone are responsible for the consequences of your actions.

Sadly, this kind of abuse is all too common these days.

Islamophobia news.

Malorie Bantala, a pregnant woman kicked in stomach.

There’s no place like home.

What is a hate incident?

So many more…

If anything, mental health assessments should be ordered on such offenders.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

What Is A Hate Incident?

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I was reminded of an incident that happened to me some years ago, by the actions of this hateful woman who very recently hurled verbal abuse non-stop for about five minutes at a pregnant woman because of her religion. Not only that, she threatened to kick her in the stomach. The only thing I feel able to say in response to this offender is to “Take a look in the mirror”. For people to realise such hypocrisy. Her ancestors are neither white nor British – how dare she tell this innocent woman, to go back where she came from.

My memory of a potentially hateful incident serves as follows…

I was shopping one day in a maternity shop, for a gift to purchase for my sister who was expecting her second baby. I spied some pyjamas in the sale for my young daughter so I stretched my hand out to pick it off the rail. However, this woman snatched it from my hands and said it was hers. It was on the rails so how could it be hers I exclaimed. She refused to let go of the hanger and the garments I had picked up. There was a battle of words and anger took hold. She was absolutely vile.

We were in a maternity store and there she was, kicking me in the stomach with one aim, she obviously assumed I was pregnant and aimed to maim. The security guard and my husband rushed to pull us off one another yet she continued to kick me in the stomach. I had a life-saving operation on my stomach 2 years before and had to see the GP to be on the safe side.

It was more than clear to the shop’s staff that the instigator was, along the lines of not being respectable, good mannered and well-behaved. The contrast was rather apparent.

I was looked after while this vile woman was escorted off the premises, I had asked the shop’s manager for the police to be called so I could have it ‘on paper’ what happened in case the, let’s say… ‘ABH’, actually did some harm or long-term damage to my already fragile stomach. The police were not called but the shop very kindly put me into a pre-paid taxi for my safety, homeward bound.

Should my request then, for the Police to be involved, be respected or not?

Did my deafness hinder my opportunities to keep on top of the situation regarding what happened?

In addition, is it a positive thing that my deafness hindered me from understanding / knowing what was actually said to me during the incident? I feel somewhat fortunate that my deafness prevented me from being as exposed to the verbal abuse from her and her acquaintances.

Just to clarify any notions that this incident may have been along the lines of hearing vs deaf or vice versa. This is not the case as most people were not aware of my hearing impairment until after the incident, due to a hat I was wearing which covered my ears, therefore my HA’s.

I had to take it all in my stride as with everything else, as a good experience and challenge.

One of the problems with being deaf is that everyone else knows who we are yet we do not know who they (the hearing people) are.

All they have to say / think when they see us, ‘that’s the one who is deaf’… they can identify / recognise us.

We can change how we look, our names but not our disability, which at times, renders us vulnerable. Disability hate crime does exist.

I have since bought several personal alarms (key-ring pull ones) for my children. I already had one at the time but was unable to use it during this particular experience.

It is quite unfortunate my children were with me at the time and they were extremely distraught.

Advice given to me by a friend at the time was that I could always “go along to the police station and ask to speak to someone about it. They can still go back to the shop, ask questions, and if necessary take action. It is not always the best idea to call the cops in the heat of the moment as it can escalate hostilities” so they assured me I did right there.

To quote him;

“What is a hate incident?

When a person or group of people treats someone badly just because they do not like whom they are.

Why does this happen?

Some people bully or hurt other people who are different from them because:

#They are disabled

#they have a different colour skin

#they wear different clothes

#they are old

#they are young

#they are gay

#they go to a place of worship e.g. church or mosque

If this happens to you or someone you know tell someone. There is nothing wrong in being different.”

Report it, always. http://www.report-it.org.uk/home

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Islamophobia On The Rise

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I was sent this petition to sign and so I am sharing it with you too. Despicable indeed. Please sign and share their petition, as quoted below. Thank you.

We came across a video on Facebook and were heavily distraught by the aggressive verbal attack on a London bus with no one putting a stop to it. The outrageous things that were coming out of this woman’s mouth really shocked us.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!!

There are two things that NEED to be resolved. First and foremost this woman needs to be found by the police and dealt with appropriately for her disgusting behaviour. Secondly, these kinds of incidents should have severe consequences.

These horrible attacks regularly occur on buses/trains/trams/bustops and something NEEDS to be put in place to bring an end. There are many videos that have been shared previously however this most recent incident highlights the brutality of such attacks. The following are some of the main highlights.

1) The vile aggressor was not only being racist by calling fellow passengers “sand rats” and telling them to “go back to your f*****g country” but being extremely islamophobic by calling the ladies “ISIS b****s”, asking whether they shared husbands, referring to Islamic terms such as “haram” and calling it all “dirty”.

2) The lady attacking was making endless threats including one repulsive threat of kicking the lady who was pregnant in her stomach.

3) The attacker had a young child with her which should bring into question her competency as a mother and whether or not she should even be allowed to look after a child that young with her vicious points of view!!!

3) The bus driver did try to calm the situation down. However, he was talking to the bus collectively when the lady was the main problem maker. Furthermore this video was 5 minutes. That is a very long time to either call the police, calm the situation down in a much more assertive way or quite simply, chuck that lady out of the bus. This is an issue that needs to be resolved by TFL.

4) Children were present whilst this whole attack was taking place, including children who’s parents were being attacked. Under no circumstances should any child have to go through hearing such vulgar language.

5) Everyone pays the same amount of money to get on the bus and should not have to go through that during a journey to their destination.

This is such a big issue that occurs in public. We need as many signatures as possible for there to be a solution. The police need to find this woman as she and others like her need to be held to account!!!!!

TFL should have procedures put into place to deal with such incidents. As they serve the public they need to have an ethos amongst staff to protect victims of hate crime.

SIGN NOW!!!!!!! STOP RACISM! STOP ISLAMOPHOBIA! STOP HATE CRIME!

Transport For London, Commissioner of Police, Gurgaon, David Cameron MP, Boris Johnson: Hate crimes should not be tolerated on TFL! Find the racist Islamophobe!Sign the Petition!