One Human Race.

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One world, one human race.

I noticed a post a very good friend of mine shared, others by other friends too, of the same nature, I simply let the others go but because I had a lot of respect for this particular friend, I was worried they were being brainwashed, relatively manipulated and without realising it, potentially paying that trait forwards.

The post shared stated;

“In 2017 when the Manchester Arena was bombed, lots of people changed their profile picture to the worker bee and said “Manchester Strong”. Nobody said “All cities strong”.

When the shootings at the Bataclan in Paris happened in 2015, people said “I stand with Paris”. Nobody said “Well what about the people who were shot in my city”.

Have you ever seen anyone counter a breast cancer post with “What about Colon cancer?”.

But for some reason, if someone says “Black lives matter”, it turns into all inclusive “All lives matter”. Its not an either/or proclamation.

When there is a crisis, we have always rallied around that particular group. It doesn’t discredit or diminish any other group, it just brings awareness and support to the group that needs attention.”

So I relatively composed a response, to that “statement”, as below.

Regarding some of these points, the people that may have made some of these choices, their choices were respected, others sympathised with and then people moved on but the wording of a certain movement sparked a debate and everyone else was expected to follow suit, expected to ask no questions and simply expected to follow the crowd. Even after justice had been served – people were and are still not happy.

People were encouraged by speakers to take advantage of the whole situation… encouraged to protest even more and told to keep the anger alive. Violence & destructive behaviour of any kind is unacceptable, regardless of who you/they may be. Regardless of who you/they may support

If anyone dared to think otherwise or independently, their choices were and are not respected and reverse psychology was  / is being applied.

The BLM movement is fine, uniting against ALL racism would benefit everyone but how people choose to behave to go about it, oppressing people’s choices, especially if they wanted to think for themselves, or to be at a safe distance (for their own mental health sake for example) or to make it only about themselves, to be violent or cause destruction, hatred, anger and dismay isn’t going to get anyone, anywhere. Negativity breeds…

People know already that my family has experienced racism in different ways, of course I would naturally want to see eradicating it to be inclusive of all. I’m mindful that way and that is not a crime… and if anyone doesn’t like that, please unfriend me. That’s my right just as it is yours to choose your right. I respect your right but what I do not appreciate is being or seeing others manipulated.

The whole BLM thing has been subverted now, morphed into something else.

So many people of different races, colour or creed have been unlawfully killed, we’ve not heard the last of it either.

Several of my friends, who happen to be black, they themselves are saying “Enough is enough now, be united!” People’s choices should be respected regardless of who/what they may be, no oppressing, no forcibly suppressing, no manipulating, no engineering, no reverse psychology… Just, respect one another.

BLM movement? That’s fine, I agree with the whole movement but the wording? No. That is what the problem here is, that is what’s causing tit for tat, that is at the root of the whole division.

Racism on the whole needs attention, but from an united front’s perspective as that is the only way it will be eradicated.

If anyone doesn’t like fairness, cannot accept the idea of unity or does not want to respect people’s individual choices, please unfriend me. I have unfriended others for the one sided hatred they have shared, the dividing they are causing regardless of who they may be. That kind of negativity is toxic. God knows the world doesn’t need any more toxicity or anger.

Stick with the good vibes (my friend) for it makes your soul glow, even more so. ☺️

 

One of my favourite quotes is;

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

― Mahatma Gandhi.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

2020 Cancelled.

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Things have gone way overboard, in many senses. It has all gone too far now.

All the rioting has become something of an excuse, for those who felt and feel a sense of injustice. Even though justice has since been served.
Why insist and persist that it goes on?
Unlawful killings happen in other countries too, regardless of race, colour or creed. Why can’t there more exposure about that? It’s just as unlawful, if not worse. Why do things have to happen this way or that way? Why can’t people just let it be?

One could say it is no longer about racism, but frustration due to being locked down for 3 months now and “protesting” has become the perfect way forwards, a release for all of that frustration and relatively, hatred.

There is a time and place, a way to behave, to achieve the best results desired and there is no need, or excuse, to be violent and / or destructive, in any sense yet it has happened and it is happening. Friendships have been lost, property destroyed, beings attacked, the list goes on. Where’s the positive in all that?

Some people have allowed themselves to be dictated by other people’s thoughts, feelings and politics when some people have stuck by their initial morals and values. Each to their own – why has that not been more widely accepted? Why has there been pressure and manipulation applied unto others to conform? When once again, it could be for the greater good on an UNITED front. Against ALL racism…

Hatred once again is the cause, which has turned into another virus.

I’ve had enough of this year already… I know some of you know how many weeks there is left until Christmas lol….

I’m tired.

The sooner 2020 is cancelled, the better.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Anti-Racism Demonstrations & COVID 19.

A good friend of mine has voiced his thoughts on the anti-racism protests happening at the moment , it was and is courageous of him to do so because of his own background. He and many others, is saddened to see the violence, the rioting at which was supposedly a protest about racial inequality.

Kudos to you my friend, who wishes to remain anonymous for personal reasons, for speaking out against his own community. For standing by your own morals and values. For being you.

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This kind of behaviour will inevitably be the cause of the Coronavirus 19 second wave, except Dawn Butler, an MP, wishes for them to be exempt from any blame. No one is above the law or exempt from any social distancing rules. No one has the right to be violent and/or destructive either.

Violence and hatred gets no one anywhere. They are only rioting because there was a sense of injustice but they have gone too far now.

Other unlawful killings in the past were dealt with on the spot because justice was relatively served, they/we were satisfied. Regardless of what race or colour they/we happened to be.

For anyone to be selfish, manipulative and hypocritical about it all is very off putting. “White silence is violence” That’s just provoking. Then to say “uneducated whites” is also going too far. All because there are those who aren’t conforming under their pressure, to join them, their cause. It’s their choice and everyone has the right to choose. Just don’t manipulate everyone else and their choices to suit you / them.

I’m seeing a lot of my friends, some of whom also happen to be black, having their say now, like the post I have shared here with their permission.

It is not about racism anymore yet the race card has continued to be thrown around to try and justify their actions and the lockdown has naturally made people frustrated, the protests has given the “protesters” a way outside and they have taken that frustration outside, and unleashed it. It has turned into a mob culture and relatively, another virus. Hatred once again is at the root of it all.

Best to let these people do as they wish, let them hurt each other and blame everyone else but themselves. and the rest of us, to stay out of the way, to stay safe and well. There is a deadly virus about after all.

Stay peaceful, stay kind. Stay righteous, regardless of who you may be, where you may be.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Free Of Hatred.

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I am inclined to do a cull shortly, for I do not wish to see posts on any of my social media feeds which are extremely racially divisive and breeds further hatred, nor do I enjoy seeing and knowing that some of these people are blindly supporting and sharing posts of that nature, JUST because they are “friend(s)” with the original poster – without thinking or questioning first, themselves or the poster’s true intentions.

I enjoy respectful healthy debates but when you see a post that tries to suggest white people are uneducated, for whatever they may choose to think ie “All lives matter” etc or for choosing to be silent… To be against ALL racism… That’s each and every one’s right, to think for themselves but to see someone turn and abuse that right by trying to make us all out as “uneducated whites”. is RACIST in itself.

It is rather hypocritical for someone to expect those who are trying to be more conscious of other unlawful killings (regardless of race, colour or creed) since no or not enough noise is being made on their behalf, who’s trying to be more mindful, inclusive and fair, only to be faced with a condition, to conform under pressure to a particular stance, one that might feel and appear divisive… When that someone or group doing the pressuring, could introspect. reflect and compromise also?

“Together we stand, divided we fall”

Unity against ALL racism is the way forwards. Not one way, or the high way.

So to read “uneducated whites” (by Ashton Jean Pierre) was the last straw, especially by a member (same person!) of the deaf community and worse still, seeing other, potentially influential, members of the same community, supporting. accepting and even sharing that notion. Most people I know have chosen to let it go.

Seeing a degree of manipulation being applied to suit – in all senses, is saddening. Whether they realise it, or not. For potentially. not conforming to them or their way of thinking, behaving.

It’s totally fine for those who wish to remain silent, it’s totally fine for those who wish not to explain themselves… it’s totally fine whatever one chooses to do, or say, or not say. It’s totally fine, not to conform under pressure, it’s totally fine, to stand firm in what you believe in, regardless of the belief(s). It is totally fine, for you to stay true to yourself.

No one has the right to dictate, you, your way of thinking, beliefs, your conscience, your life.

Those who know me well, will know that I am not afraid to use my voice, or to use my right to keep my space neutral, peaceful and free of hatred. As one possibly can.

Politics vs Morals
Seconded.

Quality rather than quantity.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Against ALL Racism.

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So now it’s not ok for a white person or anyone different to say “All lives matter”?? It’s apparently selfish and an excuse? And if anyone says “All lives matter” or the like, they are apparently uneducated?

Black lives have never not mattered. I’m extremely conscious of the diversity within my own family and where I live, it’s all very cosmopolitan so naturally,, each and every one matters, it’s in no way selfish or an excuse at all. I should not have to explain any one of my family’s DNA make up or family history, to anyone either.

How about some more consideration for those who were unlawfully killed by other races instead of tarring one with the same brush and turning a blind eye as and when / where you please. Any unlawful killing is not the first time nor will it be the last.

It is not down to skin colour but love and hatred at the root of it all. Hatred is taught and to fight hatred with hatred isn’t going to get anyone, anywhere.

I see people lowering themselves to the bully’s level and encouraging others to support them / becoming bullies themselves…. is that not a mob culture?

To be more inclusive, the message, particularly the wording, by anyone protesting should say “Against all racism” be it black, Arab, Indian, Rohingya people. There should be no racism against any one race or colour they happen to be. We should ALL unite against racism.

After I posted the above onto my social media account, a “friend” commented and as a result of their approach, I have since lost a “friend” to hatred. No great loss to me since it is all about the survival of the fittest. First photo shows their comment and my response to them from my initial post and the second is from a post on their own profile after they commented on my initial post, to try and expose me to their own pack of wolves but of course, I wasn’t having any of that sort of control and manipulation.

Racism and hatred is once again, learnt and taught.

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Malcom X realised the errors of his ways and became a much better person for it, please do watch his ’letter from Hajj.’

 

It is only recently the media has been applying the word terrorism to a white racist but for many years, the Muslims have been discriminated against.

The EDL was attacking Muslims and the government stood by and watched, the BNP had a seat in the parliament. it was never a black issue, no one demonstrated over it, people accepted these things to happen, this is one of the reasons behind all lives matter. if we speak as one against all injustices the more likely we will root out the disease .

Let’s not turn black against white and white against black, sadly we see the bigots and the criminal elements hijacking what genuine people are trying to achieve.

I admire the black woman who stopped some demonstrators attacking the Police.

An eye for an eye makes all blind.

Be kind, always? 

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Mask Warriors.

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Photos by SJ

I had to go into the local pharmacy this morning to pick up a prescription for my daughter, the staff were all wearing face masks.

Talking at me….

I’m patiently letting them know I’m not able to understand them as I am profoundly deaf and I cannot lip read them with their masks on.

They started pointing away here and there, still talking at me, I’m close to walking out but my daughter needs this prescription.

Someone gave me a pen and paper, I write down what I’m there for and who it’s for. Hand the pen and paper back… Prescription is found and she returns, trying to talk at me again.
I’m close to feeling emotional, anxious and once again I patiently remind her that I can’t hear her or lip read her because of her mask, or any of the mask wearing staff within that shop.

She realised and finally empathised, lowered her mask and spoke to me with a smile in her eyes.

What a world of difference that made. 😏

I had to go to the bank last week to sort an issue out, the staff in there were wearing those transparent facial shields – it may have been surreal still but it was certainly a lot more “friendly” and we could still easily communicate. I’d pick that over a face mask, any day.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Cherished.

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For a while now, I have been missing my childhood and school friends, weren’t those the days? ☺️
Except I now feel the need to make you smile instead, by simply letting you know that I too miss you and love you – as friends. 😜
If it’s a one way street, that’s ok too, just know that I care, regardless.
Thank YOU, for always accepting me for who I am.
For sharing / making some of those cherished memories with me.
Thank YOU, to old friends and new,, for remaining besides me, for continuing to be there still.
Thank YOU also, for being one of the reasons why I smile.

💖

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Deaf Mental Health On Social Media.

If you want to learn sign language or needed an interpreter for an appointment, would you settle for someone who knows only the basics and perhaps a little more? You would not because you would want a qualified sign language tutor or a registered interpreter – right? So that you could be fully confident of what you were being taught / told.

Then why are people (especially the deaf) sharing very personal videos about their mental health issues and sharing them to a secret group, run by an admin team and members that are NOT qualified to relatively advise?

I from personal experience appreciate that friendly support can be therapeutic and is better than nothing but it’s potentially dangerous in such a social media group. Thank you, but no thank you. I’ll stick to sites provided by qualified counsellors.

Please view a previous post of mine which also relates to mental health therapy, the deaf way. 

Vent given. ☺️

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Yes, You.

This is in response to a select few friends who picked up on the BBC article “Using Facebook made my anxiety worse” with Paul Allen, written by Zara Morgan.

Source.

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I saw very early on how certain people would only show us, what they wanted us to see. How people used and still use, social media as a tool, to manipulate and engineer illusions. Negativity I could sometimes let pass but not when it gave cause for concern and having been able to be there for others gave me reason to remain. I know how and what some of you are experiencing… for I do see YOU. 💖

YOU have been the only reason why, I am still on social media. Sure, I have my own frustrations and my own ghosts to deal with but they’re mine and not anyone else’s to bear. I find myself having to sit on my hands sometimes, bite my lips whenever I witness one of the many forms of injustice… Sometimes I just cannot resist! 😝 I dislike being a bystander to it, for fear of inviting it. Some people find me intimidating but that’s their problem. Some people choose to ignore me, that’s once again their problem. Some people choose to be angry… let them waste their time being so. They and my ghosts should not, and do not, dictate me or my precious time. Don’t let them dictate yours.

I choose to focus on my kids because who knows where we will be, this time tomorrow. It is only those who have knocked on deaths door who understands where I truly come from, only those who have personally experienced the quagmires of depression who can relate. Why I am, who I am.

Everyone is different and are at different stages in their lives. How you choose to proceed or react, is up to YOU entirely. Let nothing negative influence or manipulate YOU.

If it’s meant to be, it’ll be. God willing.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)