Yes, You.

This is in response to a select few friends who picked up on the BBC article “Using Facebook made my anxiety worse” with Paul Allen, written by Zara Morgan.

Source.

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I saw very early on how certain people would only show us, what they wanted us to see. How people used and still use, social media as a tool, to manipulate and engineer illusions. Negativity I could sometimes let pass but not when it gave cause for concern and having been able to be there for others gave me reason to remain. I know how and what some of you are experiencing… for I do see YOU. 💖

YOU have been the only reason why, I am still on social media. Sure, I have my own frustrations and my own ghosts to deal with but they’re mine and not anyone else’s to bear. I find myself having to sit on my hands sometimes, bite my lips whenever I witness one of the many forms of injustice… Sometimes I just cannot resist! 😝 I dislike being a bystander to it, for fear of inviting it. Some people find me intimidating but that’s their problem. Some people choose to ignore me, that’s once again their problem. Some people choose to be angry… let them waste their time being so. They and my ghosts should not, and do not, dictate me or my precious time. Don’t let them dictate yours.

I choose to focus on my kids because who knows where we will be, this time tomorrow. It is only those who have knocked on deaths door who understands where I truly come from, only those who have personally experienced the quagmires of depression who can relate. Why I am, who I am.

Everyone is different and are at different stages in their lives. How you choose to proceed or react, is up to YOU entirely. Let nothing influence or manipulate YOU.

If it’s meant to be, it’ll be. God willing.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

A Simple Hello.

There is a lady, who is not known to me, nor me to her, who has over the years kept an eye over me (not literally!) albeit from a distance. For we are not on either one’s friend list.

From time to time she would send me a message, to ask how I am and tells me a bit of her news. I often anticipate her next message so I too know and can be reassured, that she too, is ok.

If you are thinking of someone, simply let them know. Even if it’s just a simple ‘Hello’, which in other words, ‘I’m thinking of you.’
It is just so they know, they are not alone or forgotten.

Thank you lady, for thinking of and remembering me. More than you realise. ☺️

One of my favourite quotes.

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~ SJ (Sara Jae)

I’d Walk Alone.

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Today has been another one of those strange days, full of reflection and acceptance whilst walking amongst strangers.

Remembering the importance of self value, care and love.
The happiness from within (and not for a reason, simply because that reason can be taken away.)
How our past experiences continuously teaches us to introspect, learn from, in order to improve and grow.

Concluding once more, anyone that’s proud and honoured to be my friend, willing to walk besides me, will find a friend in me.

Otherwise, I’m quite content to walk alone.

💜

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

It’s Okay…

It’s okay…

I found out on Friday night a friend had passed away just before the summer. I was so afraid to hear more in case it confirmed my fears. It was sadly confirmed and I have had loads of wobbly moments since.

What if I could have made a difference had I not put in so much distance? Questions like that haunted me.

But now, I’m ok because best friends always say, “It’s ok, to be sad. It’s ok, to have these wobbly moments. It’s ok, to ask questions. It’s ok, to be honest. It’s ok, to say no. It’s ok, I’m always here for you.”

Don’t bottle things up and just talk. That’s always been my downfall in case I affected the other person’s mood or feelings.

A best friend doesn’t and wouldn’t mind, simply because we matter to them.

🤟🏼

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Freedom From Frustration.

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Keeping the Tree House fb group going as a wise friend put it “was a form of self defeatist self abuse.”

I have long since been locked “in an intimidated interaction.”

The damage has been done, by all those who consciously chose to target, to spread slander & manipulative lies, acted on their disdain simply because they could not succeed in playing games with me. They could not get what they wanted which was their own way and my Tree House.

The Tree House fb group is now, closed.

The website however, will remain open to view as a lot of hard work has been put into it. I thank once again, all those who willingly contributed and kindly supported.

By removing myself from the equation, mainly the negativity generated by the offenders of the deaf world, I am now free.

To be me. ☺️

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

When Friends Are Hard To Find…

Oftentimes I find myself praising the NHS yet on this anticipated date, the praise is annually magnified, for 8 years ago my life was saved by a couple of wonderful, experienced and ever so patient NHS surgeons.

It is only thanks to them and the lengthy aftercare that I received subsequently, that I today, fortunately have the privilege to still know you, old friends and new.

When friends (for you) are hard to find, like a bridge over troubled water, I will lay me down.

Wherever there is respect, you’ll find me right beside you.

Your continued friendship is more than enough birthday present. Thank YOU ever so.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Be Careful What You Tolerate.

People will always come and go, continuously showing us who not to be. Continuously reminding us, of the level of respect that each one of us so deserves. Regardless of who we may be.

People who know me well, will understand why I reward disloyalty with distance.

I don’t take kindly to people who have one rule for themselves and another for others, nor those who expect to be pandered to.

If one wishes to practise their right to freedom of speech, let me practise mine too even if it differs. Don’t silence me, especially when valid points need to be made and those, I will continue to make.

People have a right to be able to defend themselves, hence a reason for this post.

I am not afraid to kick ass, although, you will not find me kissing any. 😷

To those who have unfriended me, their loss of my friendship, will be and is, someone else’s gain. All water under the bridge.

Social media is continually being used as a tool, to manipulate, to slander, to gossip, to back-stab, to trigger and so on.

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I do not and will not, tolerate it. This is one of the reasons why, I do not let people back into my life. History tends to rhyme.

I know who my true friends are and it is those selected few, who have not left my side.

Next chapter please? ☺️

~ SJ (Sara Jae)