Wear Your Sunflower.

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There are members of the public policing others when one goes outside, re their/our use or rather the lack of use, of a mask.

“Not all hidden Disabilities are visible.”

I decided to purchase 2x Sunflower lanyards, one ‘Exempt’ ID card and one ‘Hearing loss’ ID card, with 2x clear wallets to help diffuse any unwanted presumptions, to help educate others in anticipation. The other lanyard is for whoever may be out shopping, with myself since the person accompanying the lip reader is exempt, from wearing a face mask.

However, if you are deaf and the person accompanying you is also deaf, then it is appropriate to cease the use of your masks as and when since you both rely on lip reading / sign language to communicate.

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Be proactive, not reactive.
Remain kind, patient and educate.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

 

Weathering Storms.

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We have and we are all weathering storms of our own, throughout our lives, and there will always be more to come. Regardless of its causes.

One may feel more weathered than another.
They may allow themselves to be more stressed by their memories, thoughts and feelings, than by the “stresses” around them. Internalising the storm from within.
Whilst another appears, able to shrug it all off. Things are not always what they seem.

One may choose to be an open book, whilst another, may choose to remain closed.
It does not mean, another suffered, will suffer or is suffering, less.
Yet, one sometimes chooses to borrow tomorrow’s troubles, potentially reliving the stress – two-fold. Each to their own.

Beings will cope differently to one another, whilst one will cope as best as they can, some, the only way they may know how. Some, needing guidance.

One person may retreat whilst another will be in awe of all those around them, for managing to shine on having been and being, in storms of their own.

One may experience a storm in a teacup whilst another may experience it as an overbearing storm on their horizon. 

Every being and situation is different, naturally, coping mechanisms will differ.

What with face masks and face coverings being made mandatory, the isolation, the anxieties and the barriers we as a deaf community are feeling, will face daily. we are ALL in this, dealing with this, as one. The best we can. We will all be able to relate and empathise with one another.

Be proactive, not reactive. It is down to education – there will be situations due to ignorance, arrogance, lack of deaf awareness and presumptions as to why someone is not wearing a mask. Remain kind, remain patient and educate.

I’ve had an elderly guy who was wearing a face mask, laugh at me when I explained I couldn’t understand him since I couldn’t lip read him. I chose to let his immaturity pass, and not react at all. Sure, it bothered me a little at the time but I refuse to let it, or anything trivial, consume and/or dictate me and relatively, imprison me. We cannot stop the waves but we can learn to surf. 

If anyone feels alone, be it as a result of the sea of emotionless, faceless masks or otherwise, please DO REACH OUT, for those who are able to, will be there.

💖

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

One Human Race.

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One world, one human race.

I noticed a post a very good friend of mine shared, others by other friends too, of the same nature, I simply let the others go but because I had a lot of respect for this particular friend, I was worried they were being brainwashed, relatively manipulated and without realising it, potentially paying that trait forwards.

The post shared stated;

“In 2017 when the Manchester Arena was bombed, lots of people changed their profile picture to the worker bee and said “Manchester Strong”. Nobody said “All cities strong”.

When the shootings at the Bataclan in Paris happened in 2015, people said “I stand with Paris”. Nobody said “Well what about the people who were shot in my city”.

Have you ever seen anyone counter a breast cancer post with “What about Colon cancer?”.

But for some reason, if someone says “Black lives matter”, it turns into all inclusive “All lives matter”. Its not an either/or proclamation.

When there is a crisis, we have always rallied around that particular group. It doesn’t discredit or diminish any other group, it just brings awareness and support to the group that needs attention.”

So I relatively composed a response, to that “statement”, as below.

Regarding some of these points, the people that may have made some of these choices, their choices were respected, others sympathised with and then people moved on but the wording of a certain movement sparked a debate and everyone else was expected to follow suit, expected to ask no questions and simply expected to follow the crowd. Even after justice had been served – people were and are still not happy.

People were encouraged by speakers to take advantage of the whole situation… encouraged to protest even more and told to keep the anger alive. Violence & destructive behaviour of any kind is unacceptable, regardless of who you/they may be. Regardless of who you/they may support

If anyone dared to think otherwise or independently, their choices were and are not respected and reverse psychology was  / is being applied.

The BLM movement is fine, uniting against ALL racism would benefit everyone but how people choose to behave to go about it, oppressing people’s choices, especially if they wanted to think for themselves, or to be at a safe distance (for their own mental health sake for example) or to make it only about themselves, to be violent or cause destruction, hatred, anger and dismay isn’t going to get anyone, anywhere. Negativity breeds…

People know already that my family has experienced racism in different ways, of course I would naturally want to see eradicating it to be inclusive of all. I’m mindful that way and that is not a crime… and if anyone doesn’t like that, please unfriend me. That’s my right just as it is yours to choose your right. I respect your right but what I do not appreciate is being or seeing others manipulated.

The whole BLM thing has been subverted now, morphed into something else.

So many people of different races, colour or creed have been unlawfully killed, we’ve not heard the last of it either.

Several of my friends, who happen to be black, they themselves are saying “Enough is enough now, be united!” People’s choices should be respected regardless of who/what they may be, no oppressing, no forcibly suppressing, no manipulating, no engineering, no reverse psychology… Just, respect one another.

BLM movement? That’s fine, I agree with the whole movement but the wording? No. That is what the problem here is, that is what’s causing tit for tat, that is at the root of the whole division.

Racism on the whole needs attention, but from an united front’s perspective as that is the only way it will be eradicated.

If anyone doesn’t like fairness, cannot accept the idea of unity or does not want to respect people’s individual choices, please unfriend me. I have unfriended others for the one sided hatred they have shared, the dividing they are causing regardless of who they may be. That kind of negativity is toxic. God knows the world doesn’t need any more toxicity or anger.

Stick with the good vibes (my friend) for it makes your soul glow, even more so. ☺️

 

One of my favourite quotes is;

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

― Mahatma Gandhi.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Mask Exemptions.

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People who happen to be deaf, are naturally wondering if this means deaf people are exempt from wearing masks but we all need to remember that invisible disabilities exists and anyone not able to be mindful of that is more than likely to make presumptions about why one isn’t wearing a mask and perhaps, make their feelings known.

I was watching BBC news last night as it tends to send me off to sleep nicely but for the first time, I noticed I could not lip read any one that was being interviewed – at all. They were ALL wearing masks.

Extremely uncomfortable viewing, never mind mingling amongst mask wearers.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

2020 Cancelled.

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Things have gone way overboard, in many senses. It has all gone too far now.

All the rioting has become something of an excuse, for those who felt and feel a sense of injustice. Even though justice has since been served.
Why insist and persist that it goes on?
Unlawful killings happen in other countries too, regardless of race, colour or creed. Why can’t there more exposure about that? It’s just as unlawful, if not worse. Why do things have to happen this way or that way? Why can’t people just let it be?

One could say it is no longer about racism, but frustration due to being locked down for 3 months now and “protesting” has become the perfect way forwards, a release for all of that frustration and relatively, hatred.

There is a time and place, a way to behave, to achieve the best results desired and there is no need, or excuse, to be violent and / or destructive, in any sense yet it has happened and it is happening. Friendships have been lost, property destroyed, beings attacked, the list goes on. Where’s the positive in all that?

Some people have allowed themselves to be dictated by other people’s thoughts, feelings and politics when some people have stuck by their initial morals and values. Each to their own – why has that not been more widely accepted? Why has there been pressure and manipulation applied unto others to conform? When once again, it could be for the greater good on an UNITED front. Against ALL racism…

Hatred once again is the cause, which has turned into another virus.

I’ve had enough of this year already… I know some of you know how many weeks there is left until Christmas lol….

I’m tired.

The sooner 2020 is cancelled, the better.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Anti-Racism Demonstrations & COVID 19.

A good friend of mine has voiced his thoughts on the anti-racism protests happening at the moment , it was and is courageous of him to do so because of his own background. He and many others, is saddened to see the violence, the rioting at which was supposedly a protest about racial inequality.

Kudos to you my friend, who wishes to remain anonymous for personal reasons, for speaking out against his own community. For standing by your own morals and values. For being you.

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This kind of behaviour will inevitably be the cause of the Coronavirus 19 second wave, except Dawn Butler, an MP, wishes for them to be exempt from any blame. No one is above the law or exempt from any social distancing rules. No one has the right to be violent and/or destructive either.

Violence and hatred gets no one anywhere. They are only rioting because there was a sense of injustice but they have gone too far now.

Other unlawful killings in the past were dealt with on the spot because justice was relatively served, they/we were satisfied. Regardless of what race or colour they/we happened to be.

For anyone to be selfish, manipulative and hypocritical about it all is very off putting. “White silence is violence” That’s just provoking. Then to say “uneducated whites” is also going too far. All because there are those who aren’t conforming under their pressure, to join them, their cause. It’s their choice and everyone has the right to choose. Just don’t manipulate everyone else and their choices to suit you / them.

I’m seeing a lot of my friends, some of whom also happen to be black, having their say now, like the post I have shared here with their permission.

It is not about racism anymore yet the race card has continued to be thrown around to try and justify their actions and the lockdown has naturally made people frustrated, the protests has given the “protesters” a way outside and they have taken that frustration outside, and unleashed it. It has turned into a mob culture and relatively, another virus. Hatred once again is at the root of it all.

Best to let these people do as they wish, let them hurt each other and blame everyone else but themselves. and the rest of us, to stay out of the way, to stay safe and well. There is a deadly virus about after all.

Stay peaceful, stay kind. Stay righteous, regardless of who you may be, where you may be.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Free Of Hatred.

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I am inclined to do a cull shortly, for I do not wish to see posts on any of my social media feeds which are extremely racially divisive and breeds further hatred, nor do I enjoy seeing and knowing that some of these people are blindly supporting and sharing posts of that nature, JUST because they are “friend(s)” with the original poster – without thinking or questioning first, themselves or the poster’s true intentions.

I enjoy respectful healthy debates but when you see a post that tries to suggest white people are uneducated, for whatever they may choose to think ie “All lives matter” etc or for choosing to be silent… To be against ALL racism… That’s each and every one’s right, to think for themselves but to see someone turn and abuse that right by trying to make us all out as “uneducated whites”. is RACIST in itself.

It is rather hypocritical for someone to expect those who are trying to be more conscious of other unlawful killings (regardless of race, colour or creed) since no or not enough noise is being made on their behalf, who’s trying to be more mindful, inclusive and fair, only to be faced with a condition, to conform under pressure to a particular stance, one that might feel and appear divisive… When that someone or group doing the pressuring, could introspect. reflect and compromise also?

“Together we stand, divided we fall”

Unity against ALL racism is the way forwards. Not one way, or the high way.

So to read “uneducated whites” (by Ashton Jean Pierre) was the last straw, especially by a member (same person!) of the deaf community and worse still, seeing other, potentially influential, members of the same community, supporting. accepting and even sharing that notion. Most people I know have chosen to let it go.

Seeing a degree of manipulation being applied to suit – in all senses, is saddening. Whether they realise it, or not. For potentially. not conforming to them or their way of thinking, behaving.

It’s totally fine for those who wish to remain silent, it’s totally fine for those who wish not to explain themselves… it’s totally fine whatever one chooses to do, or say, or not say. It’s totally fine, not to conform under pressure, it’s totally fine, to stand firm in what you believe in, regardless of the belief(s). It is totally fine, for you to stay true to yourself.

No one has the right to dictate, you, your way of thinking, beliefs, your conscience, your life.

Those who know me well, will know that I am not afraid to use my voice, or to use my right to keep my space neutral, peaceful and free of hatred. As one possibly can.

Politics vs Morals
Seconded.

Quality rather than quantity.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Against ALL Racism.

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So now it’s not ok for a white person or anyone different to say “All lives matter”?? It’s apparently selfish and an excuse? And if anyone says “All lives matter” or the like, they are apparently uneducated?

Black lives have never not mattered. I’m extremely conscious of the diversity within my own family and where I live, it’s all very cosmopolitan so naturally,, each and every one matters, it’s in no way selfish or an excuse at all. I should not have to explain any one of my family’s DNA make up or family history, to anyone either.

How about some more consideration for those who were unlawfully killed by other races instead of tarring one with the same brush and turning a blind eye as and when / where you please. Any unlawful killing is not the first time nor will it be the last.

It is not down to skin colour but love and hatred at the root of it all. Hatred is taught and to fight hatred with hatred isn’t going to get anyone, anywhere.

I see people lowering themselves to the bully’s level and encouraging others to support them / becoming bullies themselves…. is that not a mob culture?

To be more inclusive, the message, particularly the wording, by anyone protesting should say “Against all racism” be it black, Arab, Indian, Rohingya people. There should be no racism against any one race or colour they happen to be. We should ALL unite against racism.

After I posted the above onto my social media account, a “friend” commented and as a result of their approach, I have since lost a “friend” to hatred. No great loss to me since it is all about the survival of the fittest. First photo shows their comment and my response to them from my initial post and the second is from a post on their own profile after they commented on my initial post, to try and expose me to their own pack of wolves but of course, I wasn’t having any of that sort of control and manipulation.

Racism and hatred is once again, learnt and taught.

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Malcom X realised the errors of his ways and became a much better person for it, please do watch his ’letter from Hajj.’

 

It is only recently the media has been applying the word terrorism to a white racist but for many years, the Muslims have been discriminated against.

The EDL was attacking Muslims and the government stood by and watched, the BNP had a seat in the parliament. it was never a black issue, no one demonstrated over it, people accepted these things to happen, this is one of the reasons behind all lives matter. if we speak as one against all injustices the more likely we will root out the disease .

Let’s not turn black against white and white against black, sadly we see the bigots and the criminal elements hijacking what genuine people are trying to achieve.

I admire the black woman who stopped some demonstrators attacking the Police.

An eye for an eye makes all blind.

Be kind, always? 

~ SJ (Sara Jae)

Moan & Groan.

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There was a time when I was an admin for a pro BSL social media group, this group was known to the MP’s at Westminster as where the moaners and groaners go, its members sharing their experiences, barriers faced within the deaf community, for example, no interpreter being provided and so on. Quite rightly so. Their shared experiences was being gathered as evidence for a BSL Act campaign. I enjoyed being an admin for this particular group at the time because it helped empower those to start standing up and asking for their rights. Myself included.

During the current Coronavirus pandemic, the deaf community has once again started another (#whereistheinterpreter) campaign, pointing out the “lack” of an interpreter, but demanding one is *physically* in the same room as the Prime Minister or a couple of their advisors whenever a news broadcast or briefing is made. It is somehow no longer enough to have an in-vision interpreter provided… Therefore one was and is still being provided, regardless of who is paying their wages or contracting them to provide this accessible and inclusive service. The Government replied to the campaign by suggesting it was and is due to social distancing. Based on this, Wales, Scotland and other countries are apparently therefore endangering the interpreter who is in the same enclosed room as their VIP’s? Open to interpretation, whichever way one wishes to look at it.

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Except now, there are those from the hearing world who are moaning about the in-vision interpreter getting into the way of any visual charts on the news etc etc. This is nothing new by the way. Even subtitles / captions get in the way on the news and other films, programmes being broadcast.

Except now, once again, there are deaf people moaning about the hearing people, moaning… Even lowering themselves to that level and recruiting others to contribute. Is that not bullying? A mob culture? It is.

Whereas before, it would have all blown over, been tolerated by the majority and hey, tomorrow’s a new day.

It is extremely easy during uncertain times like the present, to permit ourselves, regardless of whether we happen to be deaf or hearing, to get carried away with our frustrations, focusing on and displacing negative energy,, somehow following the (m)asses once again. 

Stop letting any toxic divisions get in the way, creating higher barriers for both or either worlds to break down. Surely, people have better things to do than witness moaning in any sense or contribute to it?

Refocus people… reprioritise, tolerate and compromise. Show kindness – regardless.

~ SJ (Sara Jae)